Battling With Porn and Masturbation

Hvitserk Lothbrok · Mar 5, 2021

Hey,

I'm new here. I've had a chronic masturbating experience for about three years now. I'm about eighteen now and I've tried to stop masturbating a couple of times in my past but to no avail.

I regularly masturbate about once or twice everyday or maybe a few days between. The longest I've abstained since I started was about two weeks. I went to a boarding school so it was even harder because being around girls was limited and everybody seemed to do it, so it became normal.

However, recently I've been feeling bad about it because I feel like I'm wasting my time and what I'm doing will have repercussions on me. I've made an extensive search online about masturbation and most websites say that there is nothing wrong with masturbation. Some websites even recommend it and when I see those kind of things, it spurs my drive to masturbate.

Despite that, I've decided to stop the act because I'm seeing a lot of side effects. First of all, I always think about sex and I can't stop myself from analyzing the ass and boobs of every female I see. Secondly, I always feel tired and unmotivated. I lose focus in everything I do and it affects my lifestyle. I also watch porn whenever I masturbate, so my brain is tuned to see girls in real life the way they are represented in porn. Big boobs, big asses, perfect figures. I can't even masturbate most times without the accompaniment of porn. It also makes me perverted because I try to sext with every girl I chat with and I'm always horny. There are a lot of things but you should get an idea from what I've just typed now.

I've searched about how to stop masturbation and watching porn a lot of times. They advise a lot of things but personally I find staying away from devices impossible. I always use Instagram, twitter and whatsapp daily so I can't see myself leaving my phone or laptop. Is there any way I can get around this?

Porn has also made me very self conscious of my dick. I also think about the size most of the time. I'm about 3 inches flaccid and 5inches when erect and I know it's quite small. I also have a really thin girth and when I watch porn, I fear having sex because I won't want to disappoint the woman. The length might be manageable but the girth is the problem, would she be able to feel it and enjoy it?

I also want to know if masturbation affects the penis in any way, majorly or minorly?

Is it possible to stop thinking about porn and sex all the time? How do I change my perception of women? What do I do?

Does having sex help to reduce the pressure of masturbating? I've never had sex before.

I'm in Day 6 of my nofap and I almost broke it today. Any advice please, I'm losing it?

Kevster1993 · Mar 5, 2021

First off welcome

Mastrubation in itself is fine, but when it becomes an addiction it becomes a problem,

i also mastrubated around 3 times a day, now i do it once a week, i learned myself that now isnt the time, i have my time on a sunday just before bed. But!, only if i feel like it

Porn is pretty much a no go, and should be avoided at any cost, it can cause erectile dysfunction, it twists your mind about woman, its no good to your self image.

Remember, and please listed to this advice. Most woman dont care about your penis size, for your girth, if a woman can feel a finger, well she would be able to feel your penis,

the average Vagine is around 3 to 5 inches deep, so good news! Youre a perfect match for most woman.

remember porn isnt real, most woman have pain and discomfort during sex with those large penisses, the penisses in porn movies are injected with fat and they take pills to stay hard, well if its really hard, if you have noticed they are never really fully erect at all, thats because they have modified penisses to appear large on camera.

the average size for a man is around 5 inches when errect, so I lease dont worry about it.

i would say, take a whole month off from mastrubating at first, then if you still choose you still want to mastrubate from time to time, well thats fine, but keep it to a minimum of once a week.

remember that people from a couple of hundred of years ago didnt had porn or didnt mastrubate all day, they sometimes traveled in groups for 2 months before getting to their wifes again

Hvitserk Lothbrok · Mar 6, 2021

Thanks Kevster1993,

Your advice is very helpful. I don't know if I was addicted to masturbating and porn because it didn't really affect my lifestyle. It only distorted my perspective of sex and women. But I mostly always masturbated to get the orgasmic feeling which I now understand is the dopamine effect. Can you call that an addiction?

As for my penis size, thank you for the clarification. I now have quite an understanding about sex which is largely different from pornography. I won't make any assumptions until I have sex. But girls themselves don't make it easy for us guys. They're always saying they need a big dick, 7-10 inches, well...

I'll also have to stop watching porn, looking at sexual pictures and reading erotica. This is actually the cause of the dopamine drive.

I also read that not touching your dick except in case of hygiene and not peeking at porn or sexual images goes a long way. I'm currently doing hard mode so I have to do my best. I want to do a 90 day streak so I need all the help I can get.

I've also never had a wet dream before, is it because of the masturbation and is that normal?

Robindale · Mar 6, 2021

I would recommend you stay away from porn, and masturbating if you are using those porn images you remember as your motivation for masturbation. Get yourself clear-minded for a while (90 days or so PMO free) and then go from there. Masturbation in and of itself isn't necessarily bad, but too frequent and associated with porn is unhealthy. Those all just objectify women and if that's how you think of women, you will struggle with relationships. Work on being the best you. An energetic, smart, humorous, empathetic, social, etc., etc. person will draw friends, female and male to you and an appropriate relationship will happen for you. But if you're just thinking of women as boobs and genitals for your pleasure, that's where you get into trouble. Try to be a good friend first and you'll be surprised on where things go with the right person. And in terms of your penis size, you are just fine and when you ready for sex with the right person, she will like it just fine too. Wet dreams can occur whenever and are nothing to be concerned about. Excessive masturbation could impact the "wet" part of that, but sexualized dreams are normal. Best wishes.

Hvitserk Lothbrok · Mar 7, 2021

Thanks for your advice Robindale.

I now have an understanding of what I'm getting into so I would be more motivated. I'll try not to watch anything about porn or sex throughout my recovery period. I'm doing 90 days and I'm just 8 days into it... lol but it's the highest I've ever done. Right now, I only have sexual thoughts whenever I see girls mostly or from time to time but strangely I don't have the urge to masturbate. Well...

I'll also try to be more friendly and all. I'll try to be a better person and stop thinking about my penis size.

Thanks.

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