Beating Porn Addiction

Usually I don't watch porn. But if you're asking for advice - if you can't mentally escape from the urges then try to escape physically. There are many ways to do this - exercise, being around other people, going for a walk, etc.

What I've learned is that you cannot trust yourself to handle the urges internally. You have to assume that any urge will lead to a relapse.

 

I remind myself who i am , and my oath ! Queek Headtaker never fails grrrrahhhhh yesyesyesyes

 

My top methods for curbing urges:

1) Cold Shower - At least 3 minutes ice cold
2) Meditation - At least 10 minutes
3) PGA Tour 2K21 - Video Game Distraction
4) Wim Hof Breathing Technique - Look it up
5) Joe Rogan Podcast + Practicing my Golf swing

 

I relapsed twice after 6 months Or so when I thought I had it beat. I’m currently 7 months 13 days free from that relapse. It had been A struggle for 17 years in my life. I’m also married with 3 kids.

I have learned a lot in my struggle with porn. One, is what triggers me. A lot on the internet and tv triggered me(seeing beautiful women). I believe my last relapse was super bowl halftime show, I didn’t relapse that night, but like a week or two after it, but those images stayed with me and I kept wanting more, even after 6 months.

I also researched And watched videos of the science behind it all and it releases dopamine In your brain and scary how the addiction can become when I thought I could control it.

the ways I feel like I have conquered it for good was that I had my wife put in an adult filter password that I don’t know what it is(it could be a friend if not married). It’s my backup plan when having a bad day and can’t see the adult sites. I also don’t watch shows that could trigger me and try to turn my head if I think a scene is coming. More importantly though, I have really grown in my faith with God. I have listened to so many sermons on temptations and that has helped me tremendously. Rick Warren and Greg Laurie are 2 of my favorites and have helped me a ton!! I learned about all the garbage I was putting in my mind. The analogy was how we have to watch what we eat, we can’t eat McDonald’s fried food every meal without bad consequences, the same thing applies with what you consistently put in your mind. We are trying to undo years and years of bad addictions and it takes time to undo that.
“Above Inspiration” YouTube videos are great too. Give them a listen, it’s usually 10-20 min long.

Hopefully this helps and try and learn as much as possible and avoid whatever gets you tempted and triggered. make it a lifestyle change and don’t beat yourself up if you have a relapse. Just learn from it and keep trying to do better. Porn free radio podcast by Matt Dobschuetz
I also told myself , I would help as many people possible struggling with this as I could once when I got it under control.

 

When I have an urge to watch porn its the worst experience. I start to watch every nice girl walking and it makes me hard. When I see any image of the women my imagination goes crazy. It's something crazy and I don not want you do experience that. Better to do some exercises or have a extra cold shower.

 

The trick for me have been to own my urges. I don't get urges anymore. Cognitive behavioral therapy teaches us that thoughts lead to feelings, feelings lead to actions, and actions determine outcomes. Urges are feelings, you can own them by owning how you think.

When you can learn to master how you think, both conscious and unconscious thinking, you can decide what arouses you.

In my mind pornography isn't arousing anymore. I know what it really is and I don't ever want it. I think a lot of people on here just live trying to fight the urges. Imagine that your urges are a wild beast. You can either carry your weapons with you everywhere you go and be ready to fight the beast when he comes calling, or you can tame the beast.

I tamed my beast, you can do the same.

Send me a PM if you want to know more.