Boredom is the secret ingredient of masturbation desire

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by Mxracer47, Jun 6, 2016.

  1. Mxracer47

    Mxracer47 Fapstronaut

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    Whenever I have my worst relapse periods, masturbation urges or any sort of desire I have come to find that it is almost always because I am bored or have very little to do. This is most common when I have nothing planned for the weekend and stay at home and play some video games or watch youtube videos (about all I do on the internet besides NoFap tbh).

    It also tends to happen at night. I can find something to do during the day, but at night is when I usually have much less to do.

    I can keep myself pretty busy during the week, because I have a job from 9-5.

    Does this happen to anyone else?

    Can someone offer a solution? I've tried going to bed earlier but it's pretty hard to fall asleep early on the weekend unless I'm exhausted.
     
  2. Owari

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    Finally someone who gets it (jk).

    Seriously though, this is exactly what triggers my PMO. When I'm bored (I'm on summer vacation), I may be led to do this. Ever since I've started my reboot I've found a way to cure boredom to indirectly cure my addiction.

    -Making sure my devices can be seen by others
    -Keeping myself busy

    Assuming that you live with others, when using your computer or device, take it somewhere where others can see it. Also, try to keep yourself as busy as possible. I'm doing this by both a combination of games (that don't bore me) and studying (I'm currently learning Japanese as a hobby). Start a new hobby, try and play games to keep you occupied. In this case, you're essentially a baby again, and your conscience needs you to be as busy and occupied as possible. Also, if you play games on your computer or device, make sure it is something that will keep you occupied and won't bore you because boredom=PMO urge=PMO.

    Now go entertain yourself with that bottle. :)
     
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  3. Owari

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    Also, at night don't try to pull all-nighters. When you lack sleep your conscience makes irration decisions, which may lead to a PMO session. Try to go to sleep at around 9-10 o'clock (and yes, I'm a hypocrite right now but I have a task I need to do :( )
     
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  4. ds112358

    ds112358 Fapstronaut

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    It's all about your emotions. PMO addiction, or any other addiction, is primarily a screwed up desire to constantly shift and change your emotions, whether positively or negatively. I think the emotional shift associated with porn and masturbation are the key elements that drive addiction, and in us addicts, we have come to like that shift too much. And when you think about it, boredom is simply an absence of emotions, so of course it's going to 'trigger' something in you.

    The key here is to fill your life with meaningful things, so that you always have direction. And also develop a strategy to engage yourself the moment you feel bored. Being bored means you're doing nothing useful, so it's time for immediate change.

    I think that mindset will help you get past this.

    DS.
     
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  5. Yesodi

    Yesodi Distinguished Fapstronaut

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    Indeed, as I've written before, at least for me, boredom is perhaps the leading trigger behind PMO -- and not any "insurmountable" urge.
     
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  6. BlackKnight

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    What are you using to learn Japanese?
     
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  7. Owari

    Owari Fapstronaut

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    I'm using mainly the internet, and also some mobile applications (for Kanji).
     
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  8. corpulcen

    corpulcen Guest

    Oh it is absolutely. I personally spend the whole time after work in my room, just really hate being outdoors in the city. But at the same time I don't have anything else to do. I do have occasional hobbies like playing guitar or keyboard, but occasional is the key word since I only play them in during breaks between fap sessions. I remember when I was 16-17 I could spend 4-5 hours a day playing musical instruments and geniunely enjoying the process. It's just at some point I realized that it's not gonna get me anywere. Pretty much I could say fapping is my hobby but it's same as calling drug addiction a hobby which is naturally retarded thing to say.

    Yet when I visit my grandma in the village, my fapping pace decreases greatly since there's always a lot of chores in the yard and garden. And I do enjoy doing these chores and since I hate sports for me it's best kind of physical activity that I can enjoy. Sometimes I wish I lived in a house somewhere in the city suburbs instead of apartments.
     
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  9. Rewind92

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    This is a very old post but it's really help. cheers guys :)
     
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