Breaking down where it goes wrong

Don't think about women at all. Every kind of thought whether sexual, romantic, or nothing related at all, can lead to more and more thinking and other actions. With each second passing being more difficult to break out of the cycle.

It may seem impossible and therefore pointless, and it is. But the key here is what happens next in that situation. When you happen to have one of those distracting thoughts or even fapping, mostly there will come a moment where you become aware of it. It might be right away or after minutes.

That moment is the key, you will either decide to continue or break out of it. Then we are left with the question of finding a way to make it easier to take the quit path instead of the continue path.'

I'm convinced that you can learn to get used to this new behaviour of taking another decision automatically, just on the same way you can with other things, like with learning to ride a bike you also get used to not take certain directions that lead to the wrong way.

And after multiple attempts, it becomes easier to not take the wrong direction and eventually automatically.

So I think you can make the same happen for this action, which is not continuing the thought or masturbating(which also happens unconsciously sometimes) at a certain moment, or with looking at stuff.

But then you probably ask how to practice that on the same way as with the bike example. It is obvious that becoming aware of that you're thinking about women doesn't give you the same scare reaction as when you're about to fall on a bike.

o there needs to be a factor that pushes you enough at that moment to take the different path of breaking out of it. The key may not lie at the moment itself of becoming aware of it, but other moments when you have the opportunity to easily think about it.

I have found that imagining those moments and thinking about what could be done, impacts those moments itself. So when I have the time, I picture myself being in one of those key moments of deciding to continue or break out of it.*

And then imagining yourself doing the latter, and being happy that you've managed to do that. Simply doing that thought exercise has really made a difference for me for those key moments. I think this is pretty similar to the so called nlp-techniques that also revolve around becoming used to new behavioural patterns.

*There are different variations for this that you can think of that may suit you better, of which I will give my example next time.