I don’t have the urge to look at Porn and for that I’m grateful... However I do have the urge to jack off in the shower. My imagination doesn’t go to Porn scenarios, but to thoughts of my wife (we are currently separated with the hopes to get back together and we see each other a few times a week). Is it a bad idea to jack off in the shower even if my thoughts are focused on my wife???
In my opinion it is a slippery slope. It is best to avoid PMO altogether to ensure you are fully healed of your addiction. This takes different time for different people. I am 22 days in and I can tell you I’m still very addicted.
If this is your way not to watch P I think its acceptable. I am concerned though what might happen if you don't get back together
I completely understand. I’ve stopped myself from following through, but I think about her in sexual situations daily. Although I figured it could be a slippery slope... I think I was just grateful that I was finally choosing her over porn. I only watched p every now and then and never figured it could be why my libido with my wife was non existent. I thought I was just depressed and stressed. For context, we’ve had a struggling sex life for a few years and we are currently trying to work out the issue while being separated. Thanks for the info!
I hear what you’re saying and you’re probably right. We are trying to repair things, but I’d hate to relapse if we don’t work out. Thanks for the info!
Luckily the urge is not too extreme. My main focus is to reboot my mind which has been damaged by porn use. It has clearly effected my libido and relationship with my wife. Regardless of my focus, I do want to control my urges (even if they’re more virtuous because they’re about my wife). I will hold strong until we can be intimate again. Thanks for the info!
