Hello all. I first came to the NoFap community a few months ago. In the past 6 months I have come clean with my problems to my girlfriend and to my very supportive Mom and Stepdad. It has been a very hard struggle to maintain my strength to remain porn and masturbation free and unfortunately I have relapsed a few times. First by just following Facebook pictures and groups that led me to look at porn, then actually looking at porn and masturbating, and most recently by using instagram to look at porn. What I have found is that there are many triggers that lead me down into the rabbit hole that I just have to eliminate. So I have deleted Facebook and instagram from my phone. This helps!! Okay, so the most important thing is that I have not found an accountability partner and used that to my ability. I have been trying this alone and just going to my gf when I relapse and talking to her about it. But this is getting bad because she is getting very upset that I can't quit and she is becoming very self-conscious and thinking she is not enough and that I must have to look at porn because of that. I know I can kick the porn, but I need guidance and I need the right support. Any advice would be appreciated!
Hey man I can relate to your story big time. But you making your story all stick no carrot. What I mean by that is that YOU ARE PUNISHING YOURSELF HARD and NOT REWARDING YOURSELF. Let me highlight all of the GOOD things you have done: -You have admitted you have a problem -You are being honest to yourself and have sought help from family and gf. -You don't beat off as much- you have cut down! -You have relapsed and found out what made you relapse and deleted the FB and Insta from your phone. TAKE A SEC AND APPLAUD YOURSELF! You have the foundation, but now you have to distract yourself from P. By: -Avoiding isolation. -Avoiding beating yourself up. -Get a new hobby- one where you are out in public and not alone. Stay strong brother
Thanks for the support. I just recently told the gf about the most recent relapse the other day and she is still very upset with me. It is very tough because we live together with her two children whom I have grown to love very much and right now she is hardly talking to me. I understand her point of view and how she feels and it compounds my own feelings. I feel like total garbage and I want to feel strong, but it is really hard. Today I started a journal and I am going to stop drinking for a while as well. I am pushing myself really hard right now and I need to stay strong. I will really try to stay positive and remind myself of the positive things I have going for me. I avoided P all day today with now problem. Some days are easier than others. Thanks again for your support!
Work out. i've found that working out drains me of my energy...in a good way. You feel good and it's good for you. Your gf will appreciate it. You get an endorphin release after working out which is a whole lot better than masturbating for 5 minutes. Keep up the work
I actually just ran on the treadmill this evening. It is my plan to start running and doing push ups and sit ups daily. Even if it is just for 10-15 minutes. Also I am cutting out alcohol and junk food at night. This is my plan anyhow. My gf thinks maybe I am trying to eliminate too much, but I am going to just try myself and see how strong I really am. I quit smoking 9 years ago and never looked back. I can do this!!!!
