Can't stop relapsing

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Wonskaj, Sep 9, 2018.

  1. Wonskaj

    Wonskaj Fapstronaut

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    Since nofap my life has greatly improved but I feel like I lost pretty much all of my progress when I went into this binge relapse mode two weeks ago. I PMO'ed about 10 times during 14 days and I since then I went 6 days without PMO and relapsed again. I just can't stop doing it even tho it's only damaging me and my mental health. After relapsing I feel paranoid, have a lot of negative thoughts and lack the desire to socialize and I feel socially awkward in general. My longest streak was 37 days and I truly did feel amazing, I wanted to go out and talk to people and that to me was the biggest "superpower" ever because I was really introverted since I began PMOing.

    I'm going to meet my new roomates in 5 days and I'm starting to panic since I ruined my streak and I probably won't make a good impression on them in this state.

    The worst part is that most of my relapses were because I was drunk because I socializing without it is hard because i relapsed and it's a vicious circle. I have seen the benefits with my own eyes and the drawbacks of PMO and yet I can't get a 30+ days streak again. I really need some motivational words or stories to help me keep going.
     
  2. ThatGuy007

    ThatGuy007 Fapstronaut

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    I know how you feel. I just binged as well after a good run in the past month. I am talking about 15 times in 13 days. My advice is dont let it get to you. Panicking for me is worst than urges. Urges can be countered easily with a cold shower or doing something else forget about the urge. But fear is another beast. It can make you lose control very easily. Try not to ignore it but to motivate yourself. Something along the lines of "Ok i binged a lot and might have lost a lot of progress. Its OK. It can always get worse. Now what i must do is to stop immediatly. Next time i am afraid I will remember this moment, the shitty feeling of a binge and through resisting i will get out of this cycle of fear and binging." Feeling better about yourself always helps with negative emotions. We can do it mate. We arent the first to spiral down nor the last. Good luck to you!
     
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  3. wtbootb

    wtbootb Fapstronaut

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    I know exactly that feeling, that fear you won't make a good impression on new people since you ruined your streak. I had 29 days streak and then relapsed. The very next day I was going on an expedition abroad with some people I met about 2 to 4 years ago and we didn't really know each other that well, so that's basically like meeting new people. I was freaking out that I ruined everything, that past month was amazing, full of socializing and I finally started to enjoy my life. I calmed down and accepted the fact it's lost, so I'd at least try to enjoy it as much as I could. In the end, it was the most amazing and the most beautiful expedition I've been a part of. I met here the girl I fell in love with and now she's my girlfriend, made new but very good friends, unforgettable memories and new experiences. Don't worry about it too much, be yourself and it'll be all right. :)

    I wish you the best of luck!
     
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  4. Ra's Al Ghul

    Ra's Al Ghul Fapstronaut

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    Get some chastity underwear asap!
     

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