I feel as if it is about time to share my story: I started looking at nude pictures of women at a very young age (7 or 8 years old). I remember that my brother and I used to cut out the pictures of naked girls from the newspaper and put them into a book. My parents did not think that there was anything wrong with this - and I do not blame them. I cannot say when I started to fap, but I am pretty sure that I was about 15 (or even some years younger, because my parents were very liberal). But unfortunately this messed up my whole picture about women. Since I was only looking at pictures of very gorgeous girls, I myself became very superficial (it was all about the looks of a girl). Sure I had some very pretty girlfriends, but it took me very long to realize that this was wrong. I became kind of addicted to good looking girls, and for a while I had a very well paid job and was working in foreign countries. So I started to go to prostitutes (because I was able to pick the most pretty ones). And this went on for a very long time (I cannot say how often I have paid for sex - because I don't know...). But since 5 years I am back in my home country, and I do not earn that much money anymore. And still: from time to time I used to go to hookers (only when I was drunk and therefore out of control - because I knew I could not afford to go on like I used to). This brought me almost in financial troubles. And when I felt really bad about one year ago, I discovered NoFap. I joined the side (on a different username) and started to go on a 90 days streak of not fapping. But I have to admit, that during that time I was heavily drunk once and went to a prostitute again (kind of a crazy story - but I don't want to trigger you ;-) - the one night cost me €1900). Then I started to feel really ashamed and I thought to myself, that this would be enough. I have to fight this addiction for good. So I started to change my life (e.g. work out, study, avoiding triggers,...). Because I felt so bad for what I have done, I thought there is no other way than doing it right this time. In my opinion I did not need NoFap, so I deleted my account. Unfortunately I was wrong. I failed again. After another VERY expensive hooker-night, I signed up here in the middle of octobre with a new user name. And since I have been fap free already quite a while before the second sign-up, I do not really know how long I am without fapping - but definitely more than 100 days. So now I am 100% sure that you can get your brain back to "normal" - but it is not only about avoiding porn and fapping, it is also about creating a mindset: you have to realize that porn is not good for you and not good for anybody. I do not say that you should walk around and tell everybody that porn is bad. But for example: if you talk to some guys (or girls for that matter) and the topic porn comes up, you can ask them if they know that porn messes up the brain, and that you therefore think it is wrong, and that you do not need it. I actually would never tell someone to act as if they are better than someone else, but in this case I'd like to see it, as if I am better than the people who think that porn is something good. Because it is not. And there is one more important thing that I'd like to tell you: I think porn is a problem of our subconscious mind: TV, movies and newspaper fill our mind with sexualized pictures and so a mindset is created. So we start to think we need sex to be happy - and don't get me wrong: sex is great, but if you are lonely you turn to the closest thing to sex: fapping to videos with pretty ladies. When I moved back home I decided to get rid of my TV, and so I did not have a TV for more than 5 years now. I used to watch many movies with my computer, because I was able to know what they were about and if there were possible triggers. But I did not see to many commercials for example because they are full of sex and emotions most of the times. Our emotions might be another part of the problem. You see, everybody deals with emotions differently. Whereas women are able to talk about them, we (rational) men don't. But we still have to deal with them. And I think porn is one way to do so. Sure at first it looks as if we only watch porn because of sex, but in my opinion this goes even deeper into our mind. We link sex to having a emotional connection with the other person. You can only have real life sex if the other person likes you and is willing to let his or her guard drop. And that is what we are really looking for: emotional connection. We might even be able to find an explanation for why we always need harder porn to satisfy our need: because we can not get what we want. We do not get any feedback from porn. Our emotions do not get satisfied. And by choosing more and more nasty acts on the screen we think that those people participating in these acts are not worth to get something from us in return. We humiliate them in our mind. We degrade them - just to satisfy our actions. We reverse the problem and mess up our mind really bad. I do not think that everybody is the same or deals with every problem the same way. And maybe I see this all only from my point of view. But I consider myself healed, so maybe there is something to this. Good luck to all of you - I hope you all will find your way to be free of this terrible monster called PMO.