Ladies. I am a gentleman. I am 20 and single. I am a virgin and I struggle with PMO. I have been actively seeking sex on craigslist and trying to get sex. The trouble is that I have no stamina. I cum way too quickly. I know women look for men with high stamina. How am I supposed to explain myself to any woman I have sex with? Should I also be searching craigslist for a discreet encounter or should I not?
Bro, I've been in your shoes. I know what that's like and I know how it feels after you are done. It's terrible, it's a sad shame that you will feel about your life if you go through with it. Thankfully, I never met up with anobody through that, but at my lowest point I looked through there too. Let me tell ya, this is not the way to go. You say you struggle with PMO, but you're actively contributing to it by searching on such a dark, superficial, and blind avenue. It's okay, we have all hit low points, and there is so much better stuff in the future for you. But you should to turn around and walk away from this searching because it's only going to bring unhappiness and general despair for your sex life. I'm 22, I've got the greatest girlfriend in the world, she is literally the most beautiful thing I've ever seen and loves all the things that i do... I would never have met her, if I was still looking for sexual connection in such a manner. If you want to remove pmo, first step is to understand your problem. I am saying all of this because I wished I had a site like this when I was at my low points. Nobody could ever talk to me about the effects this will have on your mind. You're better than this bro, be something bigger than your desires, be yourself.
I would avoid the M4M section mate! Use real dating apps such as POF. better yet, meet someone in real life
Whatever floats your boat, but Craigslist really? A girlfriend is what you need, somebody that you love and that loves you. You can come quickly by yourself, but the story doesn't tell own long you'd last during real sex. Also, reference "duration", Look at this thread: http://www.NoFap.com/forum/index.php?threads/not-lasting-anything-in-bed.62793/#post-472696 I posted some interesting stats in there....you might have false expectations about how long guys actually have to last. Basically, you need to last until the lady is satisfied. There is different ways to give a girl an orgasm. You also have better sex with a frequent partner, girlfriend or wife. But don't think that you need to last 30 minutes of full thrust....remember, porn is porn and real sex is different. The lady might tell you to stop before then too! If you date different girls every time, your mileage may vary. Its a never ending learning curve to find out what she likes.
I know its tough brother, but there are real consequences to doing these kinds of things. You're at a vulnerable point in your PMO addiction right now, and if you actually meet up with someone it could fester into you trying to buy prostitutes next time. This is the time when you have to say no to your mind. What you need is real connection, its not easy, it may feel uncomfortable at first, but that's what rebooting and general manliness is about.. dealing with the uncomfortable. It gets easier my friend, trust me. There is somebody for you out there, the first step for meeting them is by removing these darker desires from your mind so that you can give your all to them. Good luck buddy, if you need advice i'm here for ya.
Hey man. First, if you are in a real relationship with a woman, a committed relationship; she won't mind when you cum early. In fact, she might even look at that as a compliment. Second, ask yourself why you are seeking so much casual sex. Are you lonely? Are you trying to replace porn with casual encounters? Third, if you are using women just to get off, then of course you will cum early. That's what you are there for. But if you truly love the woman you are having sex with, if making love with her is more than just about getting off, then you'll be able to last longer because sex will be more about intimacy and mutual pleasure then just getting off yourself. You adapt your performance to what kind of sex you are having.
Care to elaborate? Yes Plenty of Fish is a great site to meet real people. You still have to weed out the wrong ones.
What brought you to Nofap? What is your PMO habit like? Why do you think you will cum too quickly? A lot of the community might balk at this, but you should re-evaluate if NoFap is really what you need. Maybe PMO has caused other problems that make you think you need to stop, but if your main goal is to develop stamina, you might need to change your masturbation habits but not completely quit. I lost my virginity at 22 after masturbating on average twice a day for 8 years. I wound up having the opposite problem as you, I couldn't cum that first time. I did the second time though. Then no more sex for 2 and a half years. Totally single during that time, heavy PMO use. When I finally did have a girlfriend, and we started having sex, we had to do it 6 or 7 times before I finally came (over the course of a week or two). As for meeting people online - POF is terrible. Okcupid has been great for me. Tinder is OK, but mostly useless. I have used craigslist for casual sex, but I don't really recommend it.
don't do it, craigs list that is, can be dangers lurking there. the addiction of searching craigs list might take a while to go away, but, don't try to connect to people on there. knowing you, you better not get on any computer search for a women, IT IS NOT REAL. JUST BE YOUR SELF, STOP MASTURBATING AND YOU WILL NOTICE GIRLS TREATING YOU DIFERENT. IT TAKES MANY MONTHS. BE PATIENT!!!!!!!
Time magazine had a NoFap/Porn message on its cover a few months ago. Really good read. Bottom line, I believe your PMO is the root cause of your premature ejaculation. I'm over 40 and suffered from porn induced ED (PIED) some years ago. Couldn't figure what the heck was going on until I share with a friend my problem. He joked, "man you gotta stop looking at all that porn." But he wasn't joking. He suggested putting my self initially on a porn diet (no porn for a week) and eventually suggested NoFap. Since starting I've relapsed a few times, but my PIED has been reduced considerably. Where I was wearing condoms to last a few minutes more, I can now have sex without a condom and can control it like I feel a 40 year old should. Now, I know you're not 40, but avoid porn for a few months, keep you hand off your dick too. I really thought NoFap was bullshit. But it's not. It's real. My only reason for being on here was to reduce my PIED. Now that I know it works, I force myself to play the long game. Avoid porn and sex last longer. Watch porn and sex is very short. I'm a fan of quickies, but I don't want that the be the norm. Good Luck!
BTW, Get off craigslist! Most of the post are fake and can lead to you relapsing. In fact, avoid anything that can trigger your PMO urges. Again, play chess not checkers. Go for the long game.
