Cured after 1 month?

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by FinGuy, Aug 9, 2016.

  1. FinGuy

    FinGuy New Fapstronaut

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    Hello my dear Friends!

    I want to tell my story about struggle. Im over 30 years old now, well educated, pretty handsome and athletic guy. I've had one longer relationship in my 20's and life was ok then. Had good sex with my girlfriend and everything worked like a charm. After we broke up (other reasons), I started to PMO and objectify women. I've had sex with so many women and I'm very shamed of about it. I couldn't get enough of having sex and I wanted raise my "head count". Every new girl was like a new dope for my brain.

    There were some special girls I liked more and I have thoughts to go in a relationship. At the beginning, sex was godlike and there were no any problems. After few times with same girl, I started to have some ED. I wanted more! That was the problem, I wanted a new shot of dopamine. Girls did not understand me having a dead dick and every girl disappeared. I was so young and did not realise what was the problem. I continued my good life with myself, PMO and hunting new women.

    This year 2016, I met a girl of my life. You know what happened, awesome sex at the beginning but after couple times I had ED problems. I was faking her I'm stressed and alcohol are the reasons for my ED. Of course, I did not tell her about my PMO and of my past wild life. She understands me and says "It's OK". I went to google, searching about ED problems and I ended up in yourbrainonporn site. Is this really a reason I asked my self?

    I realised PMO was the problem. I had done PMO like over 10 years, every day and sometimes two or three times in a day. Now I've quit PMO completely, no more porn, masturbation and searching good looking chicks on Instagram and Facebook. I started my reboot one month ago and I think my brains are starting work normally. I went to a urologist to measure my T-levels but levels were okay. I also got some pills to get strength for my erections. I know pills are not the cure for ED but I think those helped me to get my self confidence back. Now, I'm having sex of my life, strong morning erections and real women gets me hard every day.

    Life is good now. I have a wonderful girlfriend and I'm living my life without porn. I think I've become man, not boy anymore. My self confidence is now much more better and I do more things like cooking and sports. Just to tell you, quit now and start to live your life. This is hard subject for all boys and men. I wanted to tell my story to help you dear fellows.
     
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  2. MadHatter

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    Congratulations on a month! No small feat!

    In regards to your post: thinking of yourself as "cured" may a problem in and of itself, for some even if not for you. I know that I never thought of myself as cured or not. This is a delicate and fragile situation, and I have made the mistake of thinking that "oh, okay, now I am all better." Many times that kind of thinking led me right back to places I did not want to go, so I avoid it now at all costs. I am not thinking of my situations in terms of cured or not, because that has disappointment written all over it.

    I am happy you are getting the help you need, and that you are rebooting. I wish you a successful and fruitful reboot! I hope your self-confidence returns stronger than ever. I hope you quit for good, and live your life. Just like you said.
     
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  3. Elchicoloco

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    Wow man.. this was realy motivational to me. My life steps were really like yours: I started having random sex with an encreasing number of guys (Im gay).. Sex was never enough for me.. I've had 2-3 relationship but after no more than 20 days I was bored and their bodies, the same that had turned me up just few days earlier, were almost disgusting..
    Every time I broke up with a partner, I had a couple of months of full sex sessions (even 20 different partners in a single month, sometimes 2-3 partners per day)... My dopamine thanked me every single day for the great shots it had from my behaviour. Luckily, my moral sense (remember than an addicted usually lose it!) was still there and I avaoided having sex with other persons when I was going out with someone, so now it's beeing a year I'm engaged with a guy and I want our relation to keep going on, so I started this PMO challenge that I MUST win... for me, for him, for my life!

    Thank you for sharing that with us.. It's really motivational, for sure!!
     
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  4. darkenedverse

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    I will agree with @MadHatter. It is good to see that you were able to move your life in the direction that you wanted to go, but you have been careful when applying the "cured" label to PMO. I fell for that overconfidence trap. Although you may not be doing PMO now, the wiring in your brain that led to PMO is still there and can reappear. Stay aware, stay healthy, and continue with your path to awesome.
     
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  5. FinGuy

    FinGuy New Fapstronaut

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    You are absolutely correct. I should not think I'm now back to normal, but those good things are signs getting better. Maybe I should think I have done things right now and I'm still in process. What I'm sure, I never gonna go back for relapse never. I think best way is to try live normal life and forget past. Maybe I chose thread subject wrong but it's good it does draw attention.

    Im also happy ppl really read these posts here and write each other. Thank you for your comments and thoughts.
     
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  6. FinGuy

    FinGuy New Fapstronaut

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    Im glad you found a person to share your love. Keep going good work and enjoy every day you have with him. I'm kinda same situation you are now.
     
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  7. SpotlessMind24

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    Nice story mate, I agree porn is killing the sexual activity with real women.
    Glad you did it!
     
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  8. Oneness

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    NoFap will do that to you. True story.
     
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  9. Ajar

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    Damn. How did you get so many girls to have sex with you?
     
  10. MadHatter

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    Precisely!
     
  11. progprof

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    You basically captured my story in your post! I was doing the same thing- constantly switching up random partners. But I was feeling the pain of it, the desire to be close and truly intimate with someone special. I was growing increasingly disgusted and frustrated with myself. When I started to develop ED, I started searching for answers, and found the connection between ED and porn. Everything clicked- from the ED, to the objectification of random guys, to the constant need for variety (new partners).

    And then I met someone special, and we've been dating for 6 weeks. I knew the porn had to go, if I wanted a healthy, happy, fulfilling life and relationship, so I gave it up about 9 days ago and haven't looked back. I finally deleted my porn stash last night (also deleted the hookup apps and any online personal profiles). It wasn't easy- I hesitated for a minute. But, what I am potentially gaining is so much better than what I'm giving up.
     
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  12. Elchicoloco

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    This is asbsolutely true, dude. When you don't meet guys but just something to have sex with, then there's something bad going on. You have probabily been luckier than me, cauz I was already into PIED when i started meeting guys. But, you know, for us it's much easier than for straight to have sex for 2 reasons:
    - Meeting App/Sites, where you can hook up guys and have sex with 'em in 5 minutes.
    - We have 2 roles to play and one of those doen't need any erection, so ED doesn't stop you from random sex.

    I've been to an urologist 3 years agos (I was just 22) and it was the third, maybe fourth year I was experiencing PIED.. Consider that I had my first sex experience when I was 21, so I started with sex when I had already started with PIED.

    But now I know I can get out of all this!
     
  13. programer

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    Congrats.

    Indeed, Loss of Semen brings Death & Gain of Semen brings more than Just Life.
    programer.
     
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