Dating tutorials are bad (my opinion)

But what happens when your psychogical conditioning when being reared was to be submissive to females in this modern age full of feminism and equality? Think to all those silly rom coms that you have watched that works on the premise of a girl getting together with a guy and then they marry / live happily ever after.

We must come to terms that the current yourself sometimes do not carry enough value to attract the type of girl that you want. If being yourself worked, then these videos wouldn't have been made and gathered views to begin with.

Your idea is right in that a person who continues to watch these videos will have a sense of lack in that they are unable to have the lifestyle they want regarding relationships. At one point though, if it leads you to be driven enough to make changes to your lifestyle, then it is ok.

Can you really expect a male with no job, dresses like a slob, is morbidly obese, but is himself is going to get him anywhere with the females he finds attractive? It's likely not to happen. The key then is to recognize you have a problem and work at it just as you would another hobby/venture in which you want success with. Once the pain of not having a girlfriend exceeds that of working to get one, then one will naturally fall into the work ethic required to procure one.

You mention that there attracting girls should not be a science and it is partially true. Afterall the deep seated and inexplicable feeling of lust that we have all felt while looking at this one girl that we somehow just knew was perfect for us is our innate genes calling that it's a match. Whether we can act upon these instincts is entirely different and where conditioning of previous experiences may prove beneficial.

The problem is that our society functions on a base of finding meaning to life in the majority of cases in first world countries rather than the basic needs. We have so many confounding variables to consider that our psyche is generally too overwhelmed in thought rather than tuning to the flow of what we know to do already genetically

 

No men is born with seduction skills.

Men who seem to ''naturally'' attract and seduce women have been mirroring someone from their environment/ family.

I used to be very bad with women, not knowing how to interact with them.

I have read books, watch videos, practice humor, and I have then used my knowledge and talked to more and more women.

I think that dating tutorial are like workout tutorial. You will find good and bad ones, but you will learn something from it.

You can't expect someone with no confidence and no self-love to just walk into a room and be comfortable with talking to women to seduce them.

@Castielle would love to have your opinion on this one.

 

I appreciate the request, but I really don't want to get into this one. These threads always lead to people jumping down my throat for my perspective, because most people here disagree with me, so I'm kind of tired of that.

 

I don't like them either because they tend to overcomplicate things.