Day 1. advice/support needed

Hey! Welcome, porn has a very negative effect in relationships when we face our addiction we realize that things we see in porn are not real, they are violence basically, assault caught on tape using slave-like minded women, its a world of degradation that sucks us in because we start to believe it and we want to experience it, but since its not real we cant do it because it crashed with reality.

If you are willing you can change and overcome this addiction, it will improve everything and you will feel better, cheers.

 

" i cannot get an erection from a woman and i don't enjoy her touch."

" it seems that with the few gfs that I've had, once i start sleeping with them i can mantain erection but still don't get turned on just treat her like porn"

You don't enjoy her touch emotionally or it doesn't feel good sexually? You don't get turned on emotionally or sexually? What do you do when you "treat her just like porn". I'm not doubting you, just trying to understand.

Being 'in the moment' and close and relaxed when you're having sex with someone can be really challenging even without PMO. It can be down to your relationship and how you feel about yourself. Sometimes turning off the mental chatter (e.g. is she liking this, am I hard enough, what does she want me to do next) and focusing on your senses can really help (e.g. how does her skin really feel under your hand, exactly what colour are her eyes, what sounds is she making, how does her hair smell...). If you can make love with that in the moment feeling that can be the biggest sexual thrill of all - that's something PMO can never compete with.