Hello everyone, Joining this type of community is something I never expected to be doing when I first discovered the amazing world of "ethernet" in college and the torrent of porn I was able consume. Since that time porn and I have had a love/hate relationship. I've managed to abstain several times in my life--usually when circumstances pulled me away from the source of porn (such as going abroad and not having internet, or travelling and not having privacy, et al), but also once as an explicit challenge called "the 60 day porn challenge." Abstaining has almost always been a very positive experience, but usually not one I could keep going forever. Through some trial and error I've discovered that abstinence really does seem to be a very positive experience, and I would very much like to change "my relationship to porn." It's always been difficult, but it also paradoxically leads to better sex in the long run, and so that alone makes for a powerful motivator. As I was joining I reflected that few things in my life have changed without a supporting community, hence my joining this site.
Hey there. You clearly know yourself and your goal. I wish you luck, we're all helpful in different ways here. There's huge diversity as well. Good luck
As of last night.. I had a slip up. I was away on a trip and finally got back home.. was hoping to see the GF but that didn't happen, and that was the trigger. For the first stages I think my drive was so spent that turning off the porn was nothing but a minor irritation and overall not too difficult. But the drive has recovered pretty nicely since then, and fantasies have been quite active. Some involve archived scenes from porn but the vast majority are my own and with people I want to be with in some way. I think I'll look through the forums and see what topics are being discussed..
