Do I need a career and my own place in order to date?

It's all about you sexual market value

1. Game
2. Status
3. Money
5. Looks

For what you told I'll say you have low sexual market value.

Better get rid of PIED and PMO first, read and learn some game and then date. If you understand game you'll see you don't need to own a place or have a lot of money to date.

 

It's hard bro I feel you. Women are quite simple it's so easy. But you say it once you have gained some mastering of it.

I'll say first get rid of PMO if your mind is addicted to porn it's almost impossible to understand women. Focus your energy on that then start to date.

Dating can add extra pressure and frustration to your recovery. Do one thing at a time.

Having PMO, PIED and dating its like being obese, alcoholic parting all night and wanting to run a full marathon it's possible but very hard.

I've been poor, living with my parents and I've dated lots of girls with plenty of sex. But I've been driven, a great lover, great physique, a promising career as a med student.

They don't like you for the money they like you for who you are. Sure money can make you have good dates and more fun but if you have other good qualities and a promising future that is attractive even if you don't date long term they like a driven man focused on his mission.

So it seems you don't have anything going on in your life right now, no nothing so better focus first on yourself and then date. That is my advice. Also sex with a new partner having PIED not a good idea.

Start by not having a porn addiction and read, watch on the internet about game almost everybody says the same.

 

Everyone is different, nature works slowly but effectively. After flat line and you losing desire to watch porn and spontaneous morning woods it can be a good idea to think about sex. It can take 90 day, 6 months or more or less it depends on how your brain rewires. Be patience.

The best moment to meet girls and be successful at dating is when you are so focused and happy in your life in whatever you are doing that you don't even care if you have a girl or not and don't care if you have the qualities requiered to date girls. That is the level you need to adquire. Girls love a guy who doesn't need them.

But understanding the mind of a girl is something very important and hard to grasp they are very difficult beings, emotional, sometimes dark and a bit crazy, with beautiful qualities too. That is a skill one most develop if you don't want to get screwed up by a girl and choosing the wrong girl. That is the real skill in dating :choosing the right girl and learn how to handle women. Being successful and happy with yourself is essential but you need to learn game too. Don't forget it.

Start with improving yourself and just being happy with being you, not for girls.

 

Many women are attracted to your potential to be successful in the future. The amount of guys out there who don't want to improve themselves in any element of life is staggering. If you let's say, want to improve your fitness, job, and housing situation in a few years time - you're literally standing out a lot these days. Of course that's not enough for some women, but they'll be doing you a favour by not leading you on. Rejection can be a blessing in that way.

I wouldn't worry about the PIED too much. Recovery requires time away from porn of course. It also helps recovery to build intimacy with women. Talking, holding hands, etc. etc. This all rebuilds the connections to a healthy sex life with a real person. The first few times you have sex during recovery, it may not be great, just acknowledge that and don't let it get to you. Foreplay is your friend here.