I'm a 31 year old ugly virgin who has no chance with having a date or be In a relationship. I have tried nofap for 1 year and 9 months before and relapsed. I do not remember the benefits of doing that Its been about 2-3 years since that time and I do not consider nofap anymore since there is no point in abstaining myself If I'm not going to get sex throughout my lifetime.unless you guys prove me wrong of course regarding the scientific proof of abstaining oneself from PMO. I am a very ugly short male. So please don't say I have a chance to get a girl. It's over for me Now the question I have is that, I read somewhere that lack of sex or being lonely is directly related to heart disease. Since loneliness and depression are somehow corelated with illnesses and since I'm not planing to die anytime soon, I was wonderng if anyone here coukd give me some advice in order to follow a healthy life. Do you guys have any proof,article or study that says abstaining from porn is good for my health? Specially since I have to go monk mode in that regard because I'm not gonna find any one else. FYI, As for now I mastubate to porn for like 2-3 times a week. I would appreciate some advice here.
No we can't prove you wrong since only you control your life. What do you expect some randomguy over the internet with fake avatars to inspire you to change? Not likely. You are sabotaging yourself intentionally creating a narrative that you are ugly. I honestly believe that you have a perception of yourself that you are ugly. And that may be true let's say you are a 5. 5 is given when you are not fat,crippled mutilated,genetic defect etc. Which I hope you are not. Favtors like height and ugly face you can't change. Going to the gym,making money and having good values you can change. So do it and then you can become a 6. The women that are 6 in their 30's after they fucked the bad boys in their twenties and can't fuck them no more since they hit the wall - those should be your target. Eventually you'll get a woman who is desperate enough if you really work hard on the mentioned above. If you don't change your mindset even if she marries you she'll divorce you later on as what I see in your post is self hatred. Now, it's up to you, I don't care what you do, but atleast take ownership. No one owes anything to you and don't play the victim. Nobody is gonna prove you wrong on anything since nobody cares about you fundamentally on this forum. And most importantly if you continue crying how lifeis unfair to you after you literally don't do anything aboit it, you are going to prove yourself that you will be lonely until the rest of your life. This great advice is cominf from a virgin as well, cuz why the fuck not... cheers to you MATE
Aha! I see myself in your position in about 6 years. So I will take the radical way out of it and just cut my penis and testicles off. Now for your question. Loneliness is related to heart disease yes. As for sex haven't really heard of that. Abstaining from porn.. It's up to you my man. There's nothing wrong with going full monk mode and complete celibacy for the rest of your life. If you like really want to jerk off.. I'd say do it without porn. Porn is has just way too much stimulus and a "high reward" with low effort to it. Besides if you want to live a healthy life despite being lonely at least you should feel mentally well too. Porn isn't going to do that for you. Scientific proof? I can't be bothered It's not really subject of interest. I hope some other folks will help you with that. Or you can just go ER if you want. That's also a great solution to your problem! Good luck to you man! And remember celibacy is beautiful. And path of the very few. You have lived a sexless life your whole life. Carry that with pride. Even though I'm virgin myself I'm certain I haven't missed a thing. Nor have you!
If your really so desperate, go on your phone text some friends, ask to meetup. Look, you have to be a friend to have a friend it's as simple as that. If you want to just sit there and whine about being lonely then stay where you are, and be alone. I know plenty of people who expect the world to just give them shit, the truth is that the world is at your feet, you just have to reach for it. Are you financially independent? Where you a good student? I'm sure you have something in your life that you might excel at, just apply that shit to relationships. It's not going to be easy, but what else do you have? Just focus on non sexual relationships first, then focus on building a sexual relationship with someone.
Listen, you say you are 31 years old. How the hell are you old? I'm about the same age but I don't consider myself old by no means. Come on man, stop with the self-loathing, it doesn't help at all.
Besides NoFap/abstaining/not abstaining, what habits do you have? Something that will improve your health and mental state incrementally not right away is exercise. If you do this already, here’s more confirmation to keep going. If you don’t, then start. A couple of push ups here and there and go from there. The same applies to any other positive habit in your life.
I don't even know what I should say to that. You are what you think you are. So change what you think about yourself. Watch David Goggins on youtube and learn from him. Whatever you think is so bad about you, I guarantee you there's at least one person out there who is even worse than you in that aspect, but still has a hot wife, money or whatever you desire. Self-pity is one of the worst things you can do to yourself.
It's funny, self-proclaimed inceldom and the "it's over" mindset is actually the biggest cope of all. "If I don't try, I can't lose." AKA backwards logic.
you are not less than anybody for not having couple or not practise sex frecuently. Find the pat of knowing yourself and like yoursefl, it will be an unique pat, don´t give up, fight fiercely, a poet said walker there is no way, you make your way at walking (is translation of a jhoan manuel serrat poem).
I feel you my G. Now is where money comes in. Just work hard , improve your self image and confidence. Woman at their youth they have lots of options, but when they reach 40, they settle for anything. The man's beauty is in his pocket. Get money and you will have a girlfriend.
Sometimes it's good to be nice to yourself and kind to yourself. If you don't even love yourself, how can you expect a girl to? Become a better person, it's not all about looks - personality, social skills and success make a big difference too. If you're comfortable and proud of yourself and are happy without a girlfriend, you'll be surprised how you feel better.
@FellatiousD Hhahahahaaha oh mate, you may be a dirty vegan but I love how you hit the head of the nail in most threads hahahaa
Date below average looking women. They are desperate for anyone. Chances are one of them will get needy and clingy and you won't feel lonely anymore. I've gone that route before, when i had no self esteem and was broke and trust me when i say this...You'll have multiple girlfriends.
