Feeling like an alpha man

Were you addicted to porn? If yes, how long for?
Thanks

 

thats great....that alpha attitude will ser you through this evil
btw warrior007 is a alpha name

 

I'm just curious, were you told by someone that being "alpha"is a thing? I feel like that is just something being spread about media to gain popularity and money by "influencers" . This is just my opinion and sure the idea of being "alpha" may make you feel better. But i think people would be better off, just realizing that we are all just humans being humans and there shouldn't be an alpha/beta discussion.. Could someone just give me intel on this? i find the idea ridiculous.. It seems to be just another way to seperate people.

 

Yes being Alpha is a thing. It can be observed in nature in various, and probably most, groups of animals, and in humans as well. Basically some in the group will be dominant and some are subordinate. The classic example would be how packs of wolves structure their society. I have observed this in Elk as well.

In humans those who are dominant typically have more success in their sex lives as well as business etc. This book has some good information on this, particularly chapter 1 where the dominant lobsters are observed to get 90% of the mating opportunities. https://www.amazon.ca/12-Rules-Life...d=1644171256&sprefix=jordan+pe,aps,298&sr=8-1

My experience as well is that most women prefer dominant/alpha men, regardless of if they admit it or not. For example they will choose Dwayne Johnson over Urkle almost every time.

 

I appreciate your answer, i guess i just needed others perspectives.. It would make sense that we as animals too, would have that primal sense of who is and isn't alpha-like. And idk bro Urkle was killing it with those suspenders XD

 

what are Omegas?

 

Omega is the last letter of the Greek alphabet. It really has no bearing to this discussion. However I have heard talk in religions circles of God being the Alpha and Omega, that is he is the beginning and the end, perhaps that is what you are referring to?
https://www.jw.org/en/bible-teachings/questions/alpha-omega/

 

No, Im talking about you’re reference. There are Alphas, Betas, but I hear and seen on Social media with guys calling themselves Sigmas or Omegas now?

 

https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=sigma male


https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Omega Male

These references. What are your thoughts on individuals such as these and how does this relate to an alpha male with todays society in the social hierarchical and construct?

 

Based on wolf's hierarchy, omega is the lowest, weakest and smallest part of the group. Alpha is the leader, while Beta is the troops (middle class).

 

I actually harvested a wolf like this once. He was a large male lone wolf that had been rejected by the pack and was hunting alone by himself. Because he was hunting by himself his chances of taking down any large game like a deer or elk was basically zero so he of coarse had to resort to subsiding off of field mice and birds, basically he had become a giant coyote, with no mating opportunities. In short, life as an outcast probably wasn't the greatest for him, but he made a nice rug.

For humans, you also probably don't want to be an outcast of society, ie homeless and unemployed. Everyone needs to fit in somehow. We normally do this by either getting a job or starting a business, both of which indicate social acceptance and a certain level of dominance. To get a job, you need to best the rival applicants and then you need to succeed in the position in order to not be fired. In business, you need to offer a service that others desire or you will not succeed, which is a form of dominance. With this in mind, understand that you don't need to be the strongest guy in the gym, or the CEO of your company to succeed in life or to attract women.

The good thing is that women also are competing for the best possible mates, and therefore, if they want a guy who is a 10/10 they will also have to be 10/10 in most cases. Therefore, if you are a 7/10, you will normally marry someone who is also a 7/10. But this isn't just based on looks. If you are 6/10 in attractiveness, but you are financially secure, you might be able to marry a women who is a 8/10 in attractiveness but is less financially secure. Regardless, there is someone out there for everyone.

With that said, I do recommend that guys continually working to improve themselves by quitting PMO, going to the gym, getting a good job and becoming financially secure. All of these things are essentially ways to become more dominant.

Oh, and learn how to bar-b-que a good steak. Its a small thing, but be dominant when it comes to the BBQ!

 

I see but humans are far more complex than wolves, would you agree? In the context that is laid out on urban dictionary is different than that of a wolf packs social habits. I’m sure it relates to humans on a basic form as you have stated.

I do believe a man has to always compete and have some sort of dominance within his field &/or dominance of himself. I’ve met a lot of self-proclaimed alpha males & I have been with alpha females & from my experience are dark triad individuals who live alone or in bad romantic relationships but generally do not have it all in the “healthiest forms”. I don’t think I have met an Alpha male with healthy ego centric vices. I think this goes to what you say of finding or figuring out their way of fitting in. Either you become part of a tribe, rule over your tribe, or create your own tribe.

Also there there is the dope alpha and the trope alpha in which western society has idealized through mainstream media. The dope that of 50 shades of grey/American psycho & the trope of Fast&Furious Vin Diesel/Paul walker & Batman, What are your thoughts on that?

 

First off there is no such thing as alpha in a wolf pack in the sense that OP understand it simply because a pack is just a family made up of parents and their kids, when they become older they go to roams alone for a bit but then settle down themselves, this is true for the majority of mammals since they either live in small group or in a family unit. The researcher who came up with the term rescinded it a long time ago. The kind of gangster dog-eat-dog world alpha mentality that people think of is mostly present in primates, this may have been true of humans once but whatever happened to them along the evolutionary chain they have come to be egalitarian and this was key to their survival, the alpha hierarchy mentality is a relatively recent development some might see it as a luxury. Beside the alpha male is supposed to be the absolute leader, unaccountable to anyone but himself whenever this has actually happened tragedy followed(medieval or antiquity rulers where nowhere near as powerful as people imagine them to have been).

 

I think that's a fair statement and very true. I do think there are similarities though.

That may be true in many cases but not all. I think it is quite possible to be dominant and simultaneously care very much for those who are subordinate to you. Often those who are less dominate want a strong leader that they can follow. For example I manage several offices each with managers and staff; I am dominant in this setting to them but I also very much wish for them to succeed and I think they also appreciate me, or at least I hope so. I doubt any of my staff would want my job because of all of the issues I have to deal with.

I'm not too sure about this but I wouldn't put too much faith in anything that comes out of Hollywood. I really like the show Yellowstone though!

 

I don’t put any faith into Hollywood but the media does have a significant influence on society, Especially on women.

I do think the feminist movement did create the alpha movement and in turn women are attempting to becoming alphas now. Idk but the masculine/feminine energy in people especially in the states, is all over the place

 

Sigma's are alphas but they aren't obnoxious cocky bastards

 

Hi guys,

Just wanted to share a very interesting misconception of Alphas. While the term obviously makes sense and has its uses, as we know the term it has originated from wolf packs about 40 years ago while observing caged wolves. However in reality there isn't really an Alpha wolf the way we think it and in fact this term is officially not used anymore when referring to them.

Most wolf packs consists of families other than random wolfs together and the "Alpha" is the breeder father until the pops get big enough to start their own family.

Here is an article explaining it but If you wanna do further research, just type it up.

https://sciencenorway.no/ulv/wolf-p...e-idea-is-based-on-a-misunderstanding/1850514