Findom Addiction: The most expensive sexual addiction

The problem with findom is once you start ........the destruction begins. I personally know dommes who earn 500 to 1000 every week.

I have spent 0$ on findom, because I am poor and I know the value of money. I want to spend thousands but somehow I manage to escape. Twice or thrice I committed to give 100 to 200 to women online, without even knowing them...but every time my bank declined because of either network issues or server issues. I took those as warnings from god.

But I have seen how some men spend thousands of dollars in return of nothing except humiliation. I am a strong findom addict and I am such an expert in this field that I got hired by a group of "Findommes" as they call themselves, on KIK, to teach new women how to be a Findomme and earn a lot.

Since then I have made significant contributions to the community sharing my knowledge and wisdom. They love me. I don't get paid for that. But still, you know, that's the point.

Now I'm new to nofap , and currently on a streak of three days, I am trying hard to control my urges and all and that's ok. But the problem is I cannot get rid of the group because now we're all friends. But, because of the group, and my role, I have to encounter the thoughts on findom. And I get some feelings whenever I think of findom but I know how to counter them.

so, my real fear is that as the days pass and my urges get stronger, I may relapse.
I know I won't but still I fear. Let's wait and watch how this goes.

Also, if anyone wants any advice on Findom, I'm here lol, I know exactly what makes men give in to Female power. I will post some valuable things in this thread in near future, which I think would help findom addicts to get rid of findom. Because... you know, if I know how to make someone a findom addict, I also know how to make someone get out of it. I will also add my experience and how I despite being around so many women(virtually), don't give in.

 

Yeah you are right. And yes, I decided to tell them too and their reaction was really good, I'm out of the findom group.

 

The answer to your question is you get attention in the form of humiliation in return.

Findom is an extended version of femdom. Lemme start by telling you how people get into femdom first.

There are two patterns often followed by a person when he or she first starts to watch porn. As time passes by, our brains get immune to normal porn and we crave for extremism. The patterns are either you become submissive and be at the receiving end of extremity or be a dominant at the opposite end. Both cases involve hard porn.(some people do switch too)

These paths are subconsciously chosen by our brains with regards to the social surroundings we have been exposed to or differences in life scenarios face in our lives. Femdom is where a man is at the receiving end of extremism. It starts with the idea of a woman dominating you during sex and keeps on building up to a woman or group of women whipping you, busting your balls, torturing them, humiliating you, cucking you, blackmailing you and the list goes on.

When a person crosses this stage, the humiliation stage, he constantly gets fed with phrases like "you are a loser", you are a pathetic object" and stuff like that. Here is where findom enters the scene, with phrases like "You don't matter, only your money matters".

Often men with low self esteem feel even more low in their life after binging these findom videos. To the extent, where the real action starts.
You start paying women and in return you crave for their attention. Phrases like "loser...try harder" after you have paid a domme, gets you even more excited. This is where it all starts.
"which loser will cover my shopping today"
"you can never get me, all you can do is pay up to get my attention"
"Serve your goddess"
"your only place of worship is me, give up for me"

They will make humiliation sessions, punishments, blackmail sessions(consensual), cash-meets, retweet games, debt contracts, there are a ton more.
This is how it becomes more and more addicting. You pay more only to get more humiliated. And being humiliated is what your sub conscious tells you as getting attention because you start cutting yourself off from the original world and you accept attention from women in this way. Because you at least are getting the attention, doesn't matter what form it is coming in. This is what findom does to you. The findom community has evolved into a culture which I cannot explain in one go. I can literally write a book and still be left unsatisfied whether I have given enough information to my audience or not.

Do i still crave for findom videos and twitter accounts and feel the urge to pay a woman to get hard?...well yes...but it's a lot better than before and I'm still in a process of getting rid of it. I can't stress enough...but it's hard. Atleast I moved on from findom and femdom to softer porn. But I have not moved on from porn addiction.

And that's why I joined nofap to get rid of PMO ing everyday. This is the first time in the last 6 to 8 months that I've not PMO ed for 3 days in a row and I feel like I'm going in the right direction. Because my longest streak before I got in here was maybe 24 hours that's it.

 

Yeah I left the group that day itself when I posted this thread...you should see my first reply.