Hi, Today, I relapsed because of my free time and excuses to not do anything productive. I watched porn for about 20 minutes and masturbated once.The consequences are always the same feelings of shame and guilt, depleted energy, decreased motivation and a multitude of other reasons. I feel like garbage because as always I fail to do my readings for my psychology class, which is due to the loss of time, mental illness and much more. I really want to change, but right now it seems impossible and unattainable since I do not know what will happen in the future. If this continues most likely, my hatred towards myself will build and create more disruptions in life. Please give me a few tips to cope with this disease. Thanks.
I know your feeling. I am trying to learn to do stuff that needs to be done, even when I don't really feel like it. It's hard. But it has to be done.
You are new to nofap i see and welcome. You are going to relapse, it is apart of the process and it is important you learn from each one, doing your best to get down on yourself. You may feel like you may never get out of the cycle but there is light at the end of the tunnel and there is small progress the longer you go. As long as you are taking steps in the right direction. See my thread above my day counter for a bit of guidance on how to handle a relapse
Get rid of that guilt. If you fall off the horse, just get up on it again. It´s not a total failure, if you get back to the usal habit, it just happens to nearly everyone who wants to break it. Observe and avoid the triggers that lead you into failing. Don´t bookmark or open the sites, unplug the webcam, don´t keep the picture/movie collection and don´t give attention to your Willy, every time he demands it. Remember yourself why you really want to do this, and also remember yourself of the positive effects you can get by being successfull in it. Again, don´t feel guilty about failing, it´s of no use at all, except making you feel most miserable. If you want to master anything, you have to practice it. Again and again. You just missed the challenge this time, that´s all - you can try again, next time better prepared to avoid the traps.
