Getting better

Kissing session? Foreplay? Oral?

 

First a great book from a professional on this would be The Way of the Superior Man. I would read that book and take that advice... but i will also give tips from my own personal experience with my previous women relationships.

If you are feeling attracted to her in the moment and sexual then just go for it if there is no one around. If it is authentic and you are feeling good.. go up to her and touch her the way you want so that you enjoy it. you can kiss her or hug or whatever. lightly touch and then escalate if you want. Be in the present moment and be responsive and just authentic and do what you want. If it is coming from an authentic place and you feel good... then that is really the best that you can do. Let it escalate naturally. all feel no think. If it goes somewhere and she is into it... then great. Maybe start with shoulder massage or something if you want to do that. respond to her body. Lead the way and do what you want. The only real important thing is that it is coming from an authentic place imo. come at her with authentic sexual energy and feelings. If you dont feel like doing it dont do it. If you feel like doing it do it. like you love to be around her and you love to be with her and it is just a natural escalation. it is coming from your heart.

if she isnt responding for whatever reason, dont react at all really. no need to freak out. it is coming from her end and you cannot control it. it is ok. ask if everything is alright if you want. show you you care about her. be comfort ble with just being around her... being in the present moment. clear mind. natural. you are coming from a good place... you are just looking to share intimacy with her you are not doing anything wrong. as long as you are coming from natural authenticity, it will be a good moment regardless, even if it doesnt escalate. as long as you are coming from a good place then there is no way to loose. even if she doesnt respond right away. you are looking to share a good authentic time with her.

no need to complicate things its pretty simple. If you are feeling like doing it then go for it. the good thing about nofap and getting off porn is that you are more in touch with authentic emotions and authentic sexual feelings and you are more in the moment and responsive to the outside world. if there is a struggle to access these emotions then just stay off porn and dont masturbate.