Hey everyone, Until now all ive used this site for is to check for forums when in desperate need for some support for good news stories, its been a huge help. I didnt even know i had a problem until recently, because like most things ive had to abstain or enter into recovery, drugs, and alcohol and Now bloody Porn. i used porn to keep me safe, or so i thought. having a girl friend felt too scary and complicated after destroying myself in life. this was all 10 years ago, i had girlfriends but no intimacy. So sex was always very aggressive or rampant and i would go through woman and then stop for a year at a time... I felt because i was honest that i didnt want any more it was okay!! didnt know between that porn was messing up my brain!! Anyway, ive met this amazing caring lady, i love her so much. we have passion in many ways, argue alot!! but thats part of who i am. we also love eachother dearly. initially because she was a new buzz for me i didnt have a problem getting it up for foreplay, sometimes 5 BJ in a day!! we wernt having sex due to our faith, not that were trying to be special just it means alot to be able to say we didnt due to our backgrounds in sex. Anyway a year in i totally lost ALL of my drive, unless it was porn or things id seen when i was high on cocaine in my drug using days. the figure of my girlfriend is great!! but shes not like the woman i was weirdly watch and fired to wire... this locakdown makes me remember using online chat rooms videos and loads of shame coming up. Anyway long post. Im needing some support!! im getting married and ive been honest about quitting porn after alot of arguements and me seeing how selfish it was... and im still not feeling aroused by her. its fucking annoying as i love her so much and she feels very sad. i know if i would sleep with another girl randomly it wouldnt be an issue thats what scares me!! but if i stayed with that girl im 1000% the same thing would happen again!!! my libido is non existent most of the time and its scary its been 4 months now of nofap!! any help would be great, even better anyone who can relate whos come out the other end.
i was watching some succes stories that he didnt get laid on her wife for almost 1year because of porn he do some hardmode for 3 month (no sexual stimulation at all both with porn and with her wife) and he mentioned about P.A.W.S u can search for his stories for better enlighten , i dont know the name of him.. but search for P.A.W.S in nofap forum he had orange phoenix avatar on him. he always mention about this P.A.W.S, Pre Accuted Withdrawal Symptom that what it might be stand for
i strongly suggest u do a full reboot no pmo or any sexual stimulation for some time for 90 days or whetever u feel convenient.. but whatever u decide stick to it .... an interesting experiment was made with mice and pigs that will calrify your problem.. they got a male and put in cage with a female and after a while sex rate started to decrease significantly and when the female was switched with another one the male started having sex immediately a couple of times then become not really into her AGAIN.. and they repeat this several times.. thlesson is male like variation and every time he have a new partner he will be much more excited to have sex .. so since u have got several random partners in a short period of time ( in real life or virtually ghrough porn) your brain is wired to that and what u need to do is reset your brain by completly abstaing any sexual interaction whether ghey are reap or virtual to be able to become more intrested in her sexually....
