Hey guys I am still new to nofap and I have been fighting really strong urges lately. One of the things that I do in order not to watch P or M is to go on this forum and read some of the stories from the rebooting in a relationship or dating during a reboot forums to remind me of the pain that I will feel or I will cause my accountability partner/SO to feel if I watch P or M. However some of the posts have explicit references to sex in them and I feel that dopamine rush inside me when I read one of them, even if I stop reading halfway or I guess what the next word will be. I do not M or watch P after reading I just go off and do something else. My question is: Does this count as a relapse?
Definitely not. You are not seeking P, or trying to indulge your addiction. Yes I can see that some of the conversations there could conjure imagery, or turn you on. At least you know your equipment still works, and you are human. It’s okay to get aroused, that will happen, it’s what you choose to do once it happens that separates it from a relapse. Your willpower is strong. Keep up the good fight, and don’t cave in to those triggers. You got this!
I've had this happen during various posts on the forums in different areas. If we had to count that as a relapse I don't think any of us would get our counters past 0. Just yesterday I came across a thread that literally jacked my urge level to like 100 with a few sentences but I was able to abstain and see day 71. Just gotta be mindful
That´s good to know, I just wonder sometimes whether I am reading some posts where the title has to do with sex or trigger warnings on purpose in order to somehow get aroused, btw does the latter count as a relapse?
It really depends on the parameters of your reboot, for me I'm trying to fix my PIED. I know I have an unrealistic view on sex in general and what true physical beauty is. My mind has become so twisted that I only find the young pornstars as the epitome of beauty so much so I'm not at all aroused by women my same age (late 30's), I used to joke that once my girlfriends hit age 25 they officially aged out of my interest but that actually was a true statement after I came to realize my addiction for what it was. For me it's No Porn and No Masturbation, I believe the sexual reward of an orgasm helped create my addiction so I'm not doing "hardmode" or abstaining from orgasm with my current girlfriend who is in her early-30's. I'm hoping to do the reverse of how I gave myself PMO by giving myself something else (Normal MO? is that a thing?) with an appropriately aged partner.
I would like to do hardmode (I think I already am). These are the things I want to achieve through nofap: - no more brain fog, lack of productivity of social anxiety. - no more porn-induced depressive phases. - no more fights with my parents (porn made me angry and aggressive towards everybody) - no more feeling asexual ( I don´t know why but despite being surrounded by smart, good-looking women I have been unable to fall in love with one) - I don´t know if I have PIED ( I never had sex), but obviously, I´d like to get rid of it if I have it. My ultimate objective is to not be a slave to sex, porn, masturbation and sexual innuendos on ads, in literature or light porn images ( girl in bikini kind of thing). I want to be the only master of my own mind. So my question is: is me doing what I said in the previous post slowing down/hampering my reboot?
