Haven’t had sex in a long time

There’s a lot more detail to my story but here’s the gist of it. I’m 36 years old and haven’t had real sex (as in making a girl cum with my dick) in about 10 years. Yeah, I’ve kind of done it over the the last 10 years, but the few times I have had actual intercourse, I either came right away or had erection problems. I plan on starting 3 months PMO free this Sunday. I figured it’s a good starting point since it’s the beginning of the month. The 3 month period will be up on December 1st. I do have a partner and we are living in a mostly platonic relationship right now, but that’s not how either of us want to continue.

Anyone have any good advice for me as to anything I should be doing in the meantime or when this 3 month period ends? It’s honestly been so long since I’ve had good, real sex that it’s almost difficult to imagine.

 

Yeah, I don’t plan on going back to any of that except for sex with my girlfriend.

 

It’s difficult even getting back in the mindset of wanting to have actual sex after simply relying on porn and masturbation for so long. My current girlfriend and I haven’t had intercourse in a long time but we have done other things (oral, handjobs, etc). Hopefully, laying off the porn and masturbation will give me the desire for real sex back.

 

No, it’s mental. I never have any problems when masturbating. It only happens when we attempt vaginal sex.

 

There’s another part to throw as well, all I ever watched was lesbian porn. I wonder if that has actually complicated the situation further, considering that it had me thinking about other types of sexual pleasure besides intercourse.