Help! How to change this thought?

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by Teuthtobetold1, Dec 4, 2018.

  1. Teuthtobetold1

    Teuthtobetold1 Fapstronaut

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    Hello I am tryin nofap to get back to my natural state but I relapsed today.... I instantly regret it and the reason I relapse is almost always the same. Get envy of female orgasm, search for articles abt female orgasms, get even jealous, start to search about multiple orgasms and then porn to look at women orgasm and feel jealous of it. I wan to break this spell as I know its all in my head but it always makes me think that women have the better orgasms than men and then it will start the whole cycle again and relapsed. I really wan to stop this problematic sexual thought and behaviour, any help will be appreciated, thank you!
     
  2. Teuthtobetold1

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    Anyone here who can help? I really need it!
     
  3. SirErnest

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    Read lots of posts on here and you will slowly learn the skills you need to stop.
    It will probably take a while..
     
  4. Randy

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    You don't have to get rid of thoughts. Just don't fap to them and they will go away by themselves.
     
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  5. Daniel S.

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    You have to keep trying to suppress and redirect the thoughts and temptations to something else. You should engage in more productive activity when these thoughts start to occur, like doing housework or going outside doing whatever. Make an excuse to stop thinking about it so you can get past this bottleneck.
     
  6. Teuthtobetold1

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    I don know, I tried many times but I always fall to it due to my great envy of female orgasms.... I wanna experience that and it make me relapse every time
     
  7. Daniel S.

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    Well, you are not going to experience it. It is impossible. Even with a sex change, it would not be possible. You need to change your mindset and redirect your thoughts elsewhere, or else you're going to waste your time being envious of an impossibility.
     
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  8. Teuthtobetold1

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    I wished I can, I have told myself what u said many times but it never works long term... I need some more better ideas
     
  9. Romans 6 23

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    You need to keep yourself busy. get a job or a 2nd or 3rd job. find somewhere to volunteer - YMCA, local church, food bank, soup kitchen, homeless shelter. Start working out. Even if it is just walking 6 miles a day (2 hours). if thats too much start with 3 miles (walk for 30 mins away from home then turn around and walk back). Keep busy
     
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  10. Sad-Soldier

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    Nothing is happen to you bro...this thing is just going in too your mind....watching soo much porn is mainly one of the reason of this...soo many others peoples like you stuck in these type of situation....
    you just need some peoples to whom you have to share this problem...find some trusted person...when you find them and share this thing that whats going-on in your mind...your mind feel shame full for all of this but must keep going it...Your just need too change your mind

    God bless you
     
  11. Freiheit

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    Read "the multiorgasmic man". Practice. Have fun.
     
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  12. Buzz Rees

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    You can delve into Tantra, train and have female-like orgasms. But that assumes even more discipline, effort and determination than nofap (no PMO) to begin with...
     
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  13. Teuthtobetold1

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    sure? is it possible?
     
  14. Freiheit

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    sure it is. There are a lot men who found solution in it. I am a beginner but I feel that this is the way. The good thing is that my sexual thoughts have space. I dont have to avoid them but "work" with them somehow. Do it!
     
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  15. Ra's Al Ghul

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    I don't understand this. Jealous of female orgasm? Why can't you just be happy with your own since you're not a woman?
     
  16. Buzz Rees

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    Yes. The actual "full" thing takes a lot of time and practice (I got near in my early twenties but then neglected the practice to much for too long), but you can get a tastebof sorts with simpler, westernised approaches. The Rainbow Breath Orgasm, as described by B. Carellas in her book Urban Tantra (readily available on Kindle) will give you a small taste of what that might feel like even w/o long and strenuous training.

    It's a more whole body, tingly, deep kinda feeling. If you expect it to basically feel like jizzing, you'll be disappointed...
     
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  17. Teuthtobetold1

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    I wish i can, I just couldn't..
     
  18. Teuthtobetold1

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    Nah, I am curious abt the full body feeling and the multiples...
     

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