HELP - I'm home alone for 3 days

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by secretovmicho, Feb 18, 2018.

  1. secretovmicho

    secretovmicho Fapstronaut

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    I am going strong with the NoFap however I am home alone now for 3 days. I was really just coming on here to tell someone, and hope to find some positive encouragement really. It's a struggle this NoFap and I really don't want to relapse.

    Any advice....Any.....greatly received
     
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  2. Marcus Aurelius

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    Stay busy. If you have any projects you are working on, focus on that. Get exercise. Watch a movie. Cook an elaborate supper.
     
  3. Set an alarm. Every hour do a set number of specific exercises. Like x pushups, some pulls, or horse stance, or plank.
     
  4. Hufflekid

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    Once you're done with whatever work you have to do, find another activity. Take a walk, work out and write done some affirmations.
     
  5. Slash543

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    Dude its not a big deal, I made it to 41 days While i was home alone......... Relapse depends on you honestly..When you fool yourself.. Other then That Its really hard to relapse..! Trust me Relapsing is what you do..! And if you don't trust yourself on not making it then try to put on Some Papers on you'r room, Some sticky notes.. Reminding you some serious things,why want to nofap,Why you are doing it.. ETC!! Also Set alarms for excercises & FOOD! Life Is Awesome :)
     
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  6. Son of Midgaard

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    Just let it continue to "be a struggle and accept your resistance to this change. You are probably very restless and irritable so I also recommend some kind of daily exercise routine, either a few times a day or one big trial per day to keep you in a good spot with your emotional and hormonal balance.
     
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  7. Honestly when I turned out to be alone, I went far in nofap. I guess Im living in a toxic environment :/.
     
  8. Warren_Beatty

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    Man see this as a blessing. Sometimes life conspires to give you exactly what you need at the right time. Maybe you're ready for this test. And it is a test. Embrace the challenge, dont resist it, dont wish it were any different. I would go against the grain here though and advise you not to stay busy. In fact give yourself time and space to just sit with this and whatever feelings come up. From my own experience with this I found that when I stopped chasing my own tail and trying constantly to distract myself from the urges and feelings, that I made serious progress. When youre not distracting you're being with yourself in a way that forces you to face up to what exactly whats driving all of this. When you have to stop and sit with yourself you'll start to feel things going on in your body. At first they feel very uncomfortable, like all you wanna do is get up and watch tv, or eat, or tidy the house, or mow the lawn or whack off and watch porn. But the thing is if you stop and allow the discomfort to be, without trying to make it go away or escape from it, magic happens. Those feelings and sensations start to work themselves out and the more you do this and the more you allow it, you'll find that the urge to fap and look at porn is gone. Resist it and it will never leave you, but if you stop and allow it then it dissipates and is gone, for good.
     
  9. "if you stop and allow the discomfort to be, without trying to make it go away or escape from it, magic happens."

    Excellent quote! So true.
     
  10. Roady

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    Nothing wrong with being home alone.
    Can you tell what exactly make it a problem for you being home alone?
    Do you have troubles with going out? Fear for people? Ashamed?

    There was a time I was afraid to be home alone because every time i relapsed. I was afraid for something that lived inside of me.

    Nowadays I can be home alone for weeks. No problem at all.
    I've learned a lot of things in my loneliness. More, there are things you can only discover when you are lonely because normally we have tons of things and people who can distract us from our pains and fears.
    Try to accept your situation and learn your lessons from it.
     
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  11. secretovmicho

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    Hey dude no, I don't have fear of people or feel ashamed (should I) I just got too used to porn every time I was alone. However, this forum is really helping me and the support is awesome and something I really appreciate.

    The thing is being at home alone and not watching porn is, to me, not 'normal' environment. Therefore, I am trying to change this mindset, by doing the reboot.

    As it happens, I took the advice of the first persons to reply yesterday and put a film on, all was going well until it came to the sex scene so I fast forwarded through it (a first) and then carried on watching it again. It was a crap film but it did the trick, as yesterday was the first time ever I have not watched porn whilst being on my own (wife is away)

    Here's to 10 days....Thanks
     
  12. Roady

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    Oke, but if nothing is wrong, then why "Help! I'm home alone"?
     
  13. PSC94

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    Set up an elaborate maze of traps around your house just in case robbers show up.
     
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  14. I like what @Warren_Beatty wrote about it being a test. Next time this happens to me I think I'm going to combine meditating while at home and trying to get out of the house a lot.
     
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  15. secretovmicho

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    I didn't say nothing was wrong, quite the contrary. I said that I am not afraid of people or feel ashamed. I wrote the thread because the environment I am in is unfamiliar and I turned to people on this forum for advice. You must understand that I do not want to relapse and to sit here and not reach out to you guys wouldn't end well. I read the comments posted by others and look at their NOFAP DAY BADGES and it gives me a sense of solidarity and hope. I am only on day 10 still a long way to go. That said I have just watched a film and now off to bed AND I haven't relapsed.
     
  16. secretovmicho

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    I already have not so elaborate traps scattered around the house, courtesy of my son. Its called LEGO
     
  17. secretovmicho

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    Sound advice dude thanks :)
     
  18. Roady

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    Oke, sorry I've misunderstood you.

    Welcome here. And I hope you will find the strength and encouragement to achieve your goals.
     
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  19. secretovmicho

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    Day 11 nearly had a relapse about 10 mins ago but instead I come here to write it down for all to see. I am NOT weak and I am in control. I write this here now to say fuck you urge! I am writing in this forum instead of viewing P. On to day 12.........
     
  20. Workout man EVERY single DAY
     

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