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Hey. Do I fap too much?

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by BlueJoe, Nov 12, 2017.

  1. BlueJoe

    BlueJoe Fapstronaut

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    I'm 28 years old, and I've been masturbating multiple times daily for years now. When i was a teenager up until 21, I never really did have a porn addiction problem. I'd jerk off every now and then to porn and never look at it again for week or more.Then I went to a rough period with other things in my life and looking back now I can see that I started using porn for stress relief more and more often. Now it has really gotten worse in the past couple of years, and in the past few months I've been doing it 5 times every day.

    I never thought I had a problem, or that it is what's been causing all these problems in my life. I've recently came across a nofap video on youtube after I've been watching videos about hair loss, and after researching the videos on nofanp I've realized that thats when all the lack of motivation and depression started for me. (when I started masturbating more and more). I used to be mentally normal I think, now I don't go out anymore, don't socialize and my free time is just coming home and jerking off.

    I'd like to hear how many times do you guys consider it a problem, and if 5 times seems crazy or not. I honestly have no idea how many times other guys normally do it a day and now I'm thinking I that really do it too much.

    Last night I told myself I wouldn't masturbate today and I didn't in the morning which was very hard, but after getting home from work I immediately did it
     
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  2. I'd say if you can't go more than a week without porn, you have a problem. 5 times every day is very excessive honestly.
     
  3. BlueJoe

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    thanks, i'm looking for honest answers because I don't know what most guys consider excessive. I don't do it 5x every day but it varies from 2-5 daily
     
  4. my recovery

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    I don't think the quantity is relevent. If I drank 7 beers everyday and you drank 12, we would still both have a problem.

    I have PMO'd up to 6 times through the course of a day (a depressing personal record), but I see that as no more or less problematic than doing it once, lying about what I've been doing and being late for something because of my addiction.

    I also think the time spent doing it is equally important. Sitting there edging for 7 hours is just as distructive as doing it 5 times...possibly worse
     
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  5. phwrancesco

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    honestly 5 times is crazy man, you can quit now :)
     
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  6. bike-wrench

    bike-wrench Fapstronaut

    I think you've actually told yourself. Forget about the numbers; they're less important than you think. Kick around the forum for a bit and see if you relate to any of the behaviors that the folks talk about. But to me, the most telling thing in what you wrote is this:

    • Lack of motivation
    • Depression
    • "Used to be mentally normal"
    • Don't go out anymore
    • Don't socialize
    • Free time is just coming home and jerking off.
    All your own words, @BlueJoe. Who CARES how often you're doing it? Look what it's doing to your life, and make your own decision.
     
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  7. BlueJoe

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    you're right, i just never thought these could have been cause of fapping, and just thought it could be that I'm in a more "introspective" phase of my life, but I don't think that's the case. Im trying my day 1 today, hopefully I can make it lol
     
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  8. D . J .

    D . J . Fapstronaut

    Anything that you cannot give up immediately has a hold over you. The only addiction we need to have is to air. The only habits we need to not give up are breathing, eating and drinking water.

    If you cannot give up M today and allow the last time you M’d be the last time, there is an issue you need to resolve.
     
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  9. BlueJoe

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    true, thanks. I made it so far with NoFap and I have already had a more productive morning when usually I'd have had fap to porn twice by now. I feel very strong about giving it a try. To be honest, to have only faped once to porn yesterday and not have done it today already felt like a challenge.
     
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  11. LEPAGE

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    I was a five times or so a day-er myself by the time I finally decided to get help. Frankly I think once a day is too much. Back when I started I wouldn't do it every day, but slowly it got worse and worse.

    Many of us here, myself included, want to quit for good.

    Welcome aboard.
     
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  12. BlueJoe

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    Good to know Im not alone in that. My first day today and its been hard

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  13. Runtilmylegsdropoff

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    2-5 times per day?! Yeah, you really like pulling your pud.
     
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  14. BlueJoe

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    I just finished my first day of my first attempt ever and it feels really good to have made it. I had an urge to fap after a long shift at work but decided to do other things at home instead. I want to stop this habit so much that I think that really helps. It's also helpful to read and post here
     
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  15. Well done! The key is keeping your mind occupied with better activities/interests. Keep in mind that porn does no good for you.
     
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  16. D . J .

    D . J . Fapstronaut

    That's awesome!
     
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  17. 5 times is way too many faps man you should start considering to stop Fapping on porn .. you should start regenerating your sperm and maturize it my buddy Keep it up ! God bless you all.
     
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  18. BlueJoe

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    thanks guys! morning of day 2 and going strong, nofap! the urge when I woke up was bad tho, but already had a productive morning again instead of fapping for 30 minutes
     
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