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Vansire · May 31, 2018

So this is my first time using NoFap, or any kind of formal rebooting process at all and I'm hoping that this will help me win this battle.

I've been addicted for several years now, and although I've always known it was a problem in my life, I was never able to put a stop to it. Now, I'm starting to see some of the side effects in my life including desensitization, pornifying everyday situations, and just general apathy. I kept justifying these effects saying that it was just who I was, but I don't want to continue on without seeing what kind of person I can be without the influence of porn in my life.

This has also taken a huge hit to my faith as a Christian. There were many times that I would try to go directly to God to seek help, or I would pray during tempting times or study the Bible. But after getting up and falling back down so many times, I'm not getting anywhere and if anything, I'm farther from Him than where I started.

I'm also doing this for my future family. I'm 20 years old right now, and although I don't have a girlfriend, I keep thinking that by fapping I'm cheating on my future wife. If I can't stop this soon, I'm not gonna be able to be the husband nor father that I want to be who can exemplify what true love is.

If this relates to anyone or anybody has advice about this, I'd be glad to talk about it. Hopefully we can help each other out.

Thanks,
RelevantClown

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RelevantClown said: ↑

So this is my first time using NoFap, or any kind of formal rebooting process at all and I'm hoping that this will help me win this battle.

I've been addicted for several years now, and although I've always known it was a problem in my life, I was never able to put a stop to it. Now, I'm starting to see some of the side effects in my life including desensitization, pornifying everyday situations, and just general apathy. I kept justifying these effects saying that it was just who I was, but I don't want to continue on without seeing what kind of person I can be without the influence of porn in my life.

This has also taken a huge hit to my faith as a Christian. There were many times that I would try to go directly to God to seek help, or I would pray during tempting times or study the Bible. But after getting up and falling back down so many times, I'm not getting anywhere and if anything, I'm farther from Him than where I started.

I'm also doing this for my future family. I'm 20 years old right now, and although I don't have a girlfriend, I keep thinking that by fapping I'm cheating on my future wife. If I can't stop this soon, I'm not gonna be able to be the husband nor father that I want to be who can exemplify what true love is.

If this relates to anyone or anybody has advice about this, I'd be glad to talk about it. Hopefully we can help each other out.

Thanks,
RelevantClown
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Hi. Welcome to forum!

Make sure you crate a personal journal thread in Reboot Logs section and blog there on a regular basis. As well as just generally be active participant in various forum discussions. I recommend this to everybody new here because it's the major thing that helped me when I was first starting. Just lurking on forums, reading and learning is great. But it usually is so much more powerful to engage. It helps to keep us motivated and accountable when we are active part of community. And keeps this in front of our minds so we don't forget about importance of it and slip away in our old habits. Sharing is also therapeutic. This is a major reason why AA meetings work so good. But that was developed before internet era. These days we can get most of the same benefits online through communities like this. So don't underestimate the power of active participation.

I would also like to suggest you to look into mindfulness meditation. It has helped me personally tremendously to learn how to deal with urges. It takes a while to get good at it and notice results, so you need to be consistent with it, but once you do it's very powerful. It has been used by sages for thousands of years to deal with various issues of the mind. And in recent decades the science is also catching up to what ancient sages have know for centuries. Meditation these days are widely used as very effective tool by psychologists for treating addiction and by neurologists for supporting recovery of the brain. It is a great exercise for the brain the same way as jogging is great exercise for the body. Check out this Ted talk, it gives a good idea of what's it about when it comes to philosophy. As far as practical side of it there is this awesome smartphone app called Headspace for guided meditations to get you started.

Wish you lot's of strength and success in your reboot journey!

Septimus · Jun 1, 2018

RelevantClown said: ↑

So this is my first time using NoFap, or any kind of formal rebooting process at all and I'm hoping that this will help me win this battle.

I've been addicted for several years now, and although I've always known it was a problem in my life, I was never able to put a stop to it. Now, I'm starting to see some of the side effects in my life including desensitization, pornifying everyday situations, and just general apathy. I kept justifying these effects saying that it was just who I was, but I don't want to continue on without seeing what kind of person I can be without the influence of porn in my life.

This has also taken a huge hit to my faith as a Christian. There were many times that I would try to go directly to God to seek help, or I would pray during tempting times or study the Bible. But after getting up and falling back down so many times, I'm not getting anywhere and if anything, I'm farther from Him than where I started.

I'm also doing this for my future family. I'm 20 years old right now, and although I don't have a girlfriend, I keep thinking that by fapping I'm cheating on my future wife. If I can't stop this soon, I'm not gonna be able to be the husband nor father that I want to be who can exemplify what true love is.

If this relates to anyone or anybody has advice about this, I'd be glad to talk about it. Hopefully we can help each other out.

Thanks,
RelevantClown
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Welcome! I'm glad you're here. And I'm happy for you that you are tackling this early in life, and thinking ahead. That is really smart.

This is a tough battle, but you can do this. This site is full of help. Explore and learn.

Keep coming back!

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