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Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by MICHELLANGELLO46, May 27, 2018.

  1. MICHELLANGELLO46

    MICHELLANGELLO46 New Fapstronaut

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    Hi, everybody, first of all, sorry for my English, I'm from south america, we don't speak English here. I hope really stick to this purpose of no faping, i'm in hard mode, that is, 90 days of no PMOing.

    Since I began with masturbation, (I was about 12 years long), the only time I stopped with this was for a span of a month, about 5 years ago, when a woman that I really loved, left me basically because I had an erectile dysfunction, so, I had not a real intention of improve myself, I just stopped for a feeling of sorrow, and after that, PMO, has been a Part of my life, since then I've been alone, I think that simply my actions doesn't show security. I even ended up getting involved with prostitutes just to be sure that I was able to have sex with a Woman, of course that's something that really hurt me a lot, after all, I was telling me unconsciously that I didn't deserve a real woman.

    I decided that all of that must stop now¡¡. this is my 41 day without PMO, and I really hoping for a change, I don't know what could happen after all of this, but I'll put everything of me in this effort.
     
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  2. PMO addict

    PMO addict Fapstronaut

    Hi @MICHELLANGELLO46 and welcome to nofap. Great job going to day 46 so far. It looks like you have a good mind set of just staying clean no matter what.

    I also have been alone a while. I would like to be in a relationship with a woman one day. But if it doesn't happen today I will still persist in staying clean. I'm much more likely to be in a relationship when I'm clean than to be in a relationship while using PMO addiction.
     
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  3. Protagoras

    Protagoras Fapstronaut

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    42 days is great! Nice work. HERE are some things helping me.
     
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  4. Full ahead

    Full ahead Fapstronaut

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    Hello! Welcome here!. Joining this Site is a good decision, and I am dure you will find friends and support to help you along the way.

    All the best

    PS. Bienvenido, acá habemos también algunos hispanoparlantes. Te mando un saludo desde México
     
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  5. MICHELLANGELLO46

    MICHELLANGELLO46 New Fapstronaut

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    Thank you all for your support:), it really helps a lot get to know that actually there are people that doesn't judge you for this sort of things. I'm really decided to bring a change in my life, and I know that one must strive in order to achieve it, so, I change my goal. I'm not going for 90 days but for 120 days:emoji_muscle::emoji_muscle:
     
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  6. Hi. Welcome to forum!

    Make sure you crate a personal journal thread in Reboot Logs section and blog there on a regular basis. As well as just generally be active participant in various forum discussions. I recommend this to everybody new here because it's the major thing that helped me when I was first starting. Just lurking on forums, reading and learning is great. But it usually is so much more powerful to engage. It helps to keep us motivated and accountable when we are active part of community. And keeps this in front of our minds so we don't forget about importance of it and slip away in our old habits. Sharing is also therapeutic. This is a major reason why AA meetings work so good. But that was developed before internet era. These days we can get most of the same benefits online through communities like this. So don't underestimate the power of active participation.

    I would also like to suggest you to look into mindfulness meditation. It has helped me personally tremendously to learn how to deal with urges. It takes a while to get good at it and notice results, so you need to be consistent with it, but once you do it's very powerful. It has been used by sages for thousands of years to deal with various issues of the mind. And in recent decades the science is also catching up to what ancient sages have know for centuries. Meditation these days are widely used as very effective tool by psychologists for treating addiction and by neurologists for supporting recovery of the brain. It is a great exercise for the brain the same way as jogging is great exercise for the body. Check out this Ted talk, it gives a good idea of what's it about when it comes to philosophy. As far as practical side of it there is this awesome smartphone app called Headspace for guided meditations to get you started.

    Wish you lot's of strength and success in your reboot journey!
     

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