How can I stay focused on myself and not women

Quick background, I'm a 23yo male started pmo from about 13-14. I lost my virginity at 17 yo and I've never really had much issues with getting girls. I've come out of a long term relationship (3 years) and realized that I've just gone a month without sex for the first time since I was 17. As a side note i was completely addicted to pmo throughout this time, i would even pmo right after sex sometimes.

This is a brand new intentional journey for me and it's great and all, just relapsed after a 16 day streak but I'm dedicated to changing so I'm right back on it. I've also decided that this time I want to take my focus off of women completely and focus on myself and own development.

My question is, how do you guys cope with the sexual urges? my body and mind is so use to the release. I often find myself staring at girls in the gym or on the street. I even recently downloaded hinge and tinder just to talk to girls and get some. But knowing its not really what i want i never truly pursue this interactions.

I feel like my obsession with women is hindering my progress and pmo has definitely ruined how I see women. Just the other day me and a friend were staring at a beautiful bodied woman at the store. she knew i was watching but as she closed the car boot i said, " she's showing off her figure to me". in that moment i realised what i said and it made me understand just how much my porn addiction had rewired my brain.

Sorry for the ramblings, but what can i do to stop my eyes wandering towards women and keep focused on the goals I've set for myself.

 

Thanks for the response. I’m only just seeing this but you’ve hit the nail right on the head.
Since writing the original post I’ve made a conscious decision to move my focus away from women and onto my goals and objectives. At first it was difficult but as you say, you have to reinforce the decision daily and now I honestly don’t even think of women that much. I still have a ways to go but I’m making great progress!

I’ve realigned my focuses and it took a while to fix my mind on a goal to work on. However, now I can say that I’m fully focused on building my business and focusing and tapping into the fitness industry ( just taken the plunge to pursue my dream job of being a personal trainer). It feels good having something to work towards.

And yeah dating apps are a completely joke. Since the post I’ve deleted them and remembered to stay focused on myself.

Chase your goals not chicks

 

Yes that’s what I mean haha. I don’t have many real female friends however. I used to think I just didn’t have anything in common with the opposite sex. But now I realise I have a big problem with objectifying women which makes it difficult to pursue plutonic friendships. I’m hoping abstaining from porn can help solve that.