How many sex in reality happen like porns?

i dont think its all real, else people wouldnt watch porn. they'd be out having sex if it were easily available.

it depends on where you are. there could be some stranger than porn stories out in real life.

 

Based on my experience sex like in porn (2 strangers, 1 night) happens but you need these two ingredients:
1. You need to be handsome and confident. Handsome alone is not enough, confident alone is not enough. Handsome & confident.
2. You need to find some mentally fucked up woman (or more like she will find you if you have the first ingredient). Examples:
---a.) her boyfriend cheated on her and she wants revenge or get over him
---b.) she is average looking but wants to boost her self-confidence that she is enough to get that hot handsome guy over there.
---c.) she is virgin and decide to loose the virginity.
---d.) she is addicted to sex
---e.) you got rough idea by now what I meant by second ingredient

All those woman when they decide to have sex, they basically have immediately hundreds options around them (in club, in pub, bar...). Obviously if you have so many options you naturally go for the best one. They choose most handsome guy and gave him small signal (bump into him or strong eyefucking contact or smile or tried to create small incident, etc). The guy now needs to be confident enough to build on this. If he is not she simply move to next option. Therefore handsome&confident. If you are just confident you never receive that signal in the first place.

General rule is: If nobody have ever told you you could be a model then probably you are not handsome enough as she will always have options like that around her. Sorry for harsh truth, but that's reality.
Btw in my experience ingredient 2b.) happens most often and the girl usually creates after sex a selfie and sends it to her close friends and brags how great she is to get such guy.

Just final thought: Yes it will definitely boost you confidence and ego (particularly from beginning), but it wont make you happy in long run.
Source: what happened to me and what I saw my model-like friends doing with my own eyes.

 

I don't mean hide. I just talked about my understanding of your words.

 

its possible, but for this there are musts, you must have a nice social ability and give an awsome first impresion and talk and bring the persons mood up and in a way turn the girl on, looks arent that important if you have the first thing(wen i say not important doesnt mean to look like an oger) but looking good always gives a lot more points in favor, now, to achieve this, one thing that can help you, because personaly it definatelly helped me, is nofap, i stoped masturbation to this, porn turns out like something boring too once you get to what i mean, it turns out like just watching your self banging a girl wich isnt atleast for me a turn on. If you watch a porn video(im not recomending just comenting) think in how to actually get into that situation or how would you react in that video situation, and there you will see that it is posible, but you Must have the cualities mentioned.

 

It's very rare that sex will be pornographic in nature. Yes, it could happen, and there might be three or four people out there who have experienced it, but frankly I think it's so rare that it's probably not worth trying to find it. Besides, how do you know you'd even enjoy it if you experienced it? Do you have any idea how many male porn stars have committed suicide over the years? Look it up, you might be surprised.

Clearly, they weren't enjoying it all that much. Clearly, easy sex with hot women isn't for everyone.

 

I have clue where you are from, but one night stands and random sexual encounters are common anywhere on this planet. If there's a significant population of people around, there's bound to be some "playing" going on. It's what we are wired for. We're not wired to sit in front of screens and please ourselves day in and day out, yet we do so anyway because it's easy and convenient.

 

This totally fucks with my head. Society says guys are dominant, but how are guys the dominant ones in these situations? I hear talk about being confident, but what exactly is the guy confident about?

The initiator just made the guy her bitch. One bump or a couple looks are extremely low risk societal actions. What the guy is expected to do after that has much higher risk of embarrassment/rejection/negative responsibility, something that is not associated with a simple look or a bump.

The sound of that just lacks control and power. The owner calls the dog towards them, not the other way around. Societal pretense isn't making sense to me here.

To move on to personal experience, I've legitimately felt like I was being rape-y hooking up with women. It's made me uncomfortable enough to not be interested in the current societal standard. The hook-up culture chicks I've played with expect physical intimacy in a period of time that is far shorter than what I'm comfortable with.

It's not about confidence when a party, regardless of gender, isn't comfortable with the amount of physical interaction that is going on or expected of them. I strongly urge the guys who feel like they aren't "comfortable" enough to stop judging themselves based on MTV bullshit and continue with their lives.

You feel like you don't want to touch that person yet? Then don't. And get confident about it. You'll find the people you want to interact with in your life. Stop worrying about what you've read or seen or heard. Trust your own instincts and education.

Although I don't feel I've expressed myself clearly or well, I do feel that I've presented enough food for thought to bring up campus rape news that were all over the papers these last few years. The shadiest cases are the ones where the girl was conscious and aware during the encounter but says she didn't want it after the whole thing happened, and the guy says that everything was going like the girl wanted it. I'm not taking either side in such a general cast of the die, but I want to point out that the consistency and similarity of these problem cases lead towards culture being a culprit.

People talk about how rape culture has penetrated our college campuses. I say that culture must always be presented to its participants. "Real life shows" have turned many societal interactions into sad mirrors of the shit shows that stooped to consistently new lows to keep the viewers tuned in. It's a sham to think that our lives should be anything like the fiction that was presented to us in our most malleable years.

 

It is kind of away from the main topic on this thread but I wanted to touch on a part that @Beopus said. It is another lie that is out there in the porn movies. Not in all of them but a large majority, and that is what a confident man should be. We all watched porn and the man takes what he wants, a real he man type, and the woman is just crazy about it. We are supposed to sleep with them the night we meet them, and you can get the rest of where I am going. But that isn't really a confident man in my opinion. A confident man is someone who is secure and good with who they are. A confident man, may just want a girls number and get to know her before he goes further. If you have confidence you are not trying to hide who you are, you just are who you are, if that makes sense. You have to wade through the lies of porn and truly learn what a real man is. A real man has nothing to do with how many girls you sleep with, or how big you are in the gym, or even how big your dick is. When you find out what it is to you be that man, that is where confidence comes from.