How things changed and restored myself :) few thoughts from experience

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by xhridoy, Nov 7, 2016.

  1. xhridoy

    xhridoy Guest

    Hi people, this is supposed to be my detailed report regarding how I restored myself. My time was full of mistakes, ups and downs, confusion, almost edging experience, fantasy and so many things. How ever each blow taught me something new, made me more strong, and gave me that push to ask people here in NoFap, people's view and response were just amazing.

    Note: This report of mine isn't guide, rather it's my experience and what I learned and what I wish to share to new Fapstronaut to make their little bit easy. I can be mistaken about a lot points, so do your contribution in pointing out please.

    Attitude and Determination:
    Probably it was one my biggest weak point, I started this with wrong attitude to porn and even less determined. I thought I just need to stay away from PMO for some time to restore then can again go back to enjoy my time. You see, I promised myself to get back to those time to enjoy PMO. It didn't help at all, rather it created a problem that is continuously checking/trying my erection, I got depressed, made myself pressurized.
    • One shouldn't think no PMO is a part of life, rather it's the normal life.
    • Don't put yourself under some test every now and then.
    • Everyone is different, so your healing can be faster/slower than some.
    • There is nothing called 'hard mode', I believe differentiating between is a wrong action. This so called 'hard mode' is the only way.
    Expectation and reality:
    I have mentioned this in one of 2 months report. We get to read a lot about superpower people develop just after they stop PMO, and keeps on building our expectation on it and that too leads to depression once the exception doesn't meet.

    • I expected a pair of wings.
    • Power to fly.
    • Wet dreams every night, perhaps even during my day power naps (I know sounds disgusting but I thought I produce toooo much sperms)
    • Random girls coming and crashing on me.
    • Became Arnold schwarzenegger as i started working out even
    I achieved none of this, sounds weird? But its the truth, except the normal wet dream circle which is almost once in every week, nothing changed.

    We need to understand that every person is different, so is his healing power and his reaction. Don't build your expectation based upon someone else, your completley different identity with different hormone, DNA, psychology. This journey isn't like a job that if you try hard you can achieve end result, rather its opposite. Go with the flow, embrace the little change you have.

    Only NoFap? No,change you complete lifestyle
    There is a great quote "Dream for a dream, a dream full of dreams". When you commit yourself to NoFap, I believe it also gives you opportunity to open up a lot of different possibility. When I started NoFap, I started making changes to daily lifestyle slowly:
    • I started working out daily, because its a healthy habit and it will also help me sleep rather then getting into staying up late and watch porn.
    • I changed my diet. No sugar because it raise the Dopamine level, more of fruits/vegetables, plenty of nuts, dates etc. The change is diet I have done from two side, one side simply went to healthier side of eating which is fruits, vegetable, no sugar etc. and other side was to eating things which helps sexual health, like walnut, cashew, dates for increasing blood flow, sperm health etc.
    • Read, learn and act. Believe me its fun. When I say read, I literally mean reading like old times, not in smartphone/laptop. I have my reason from experience to support. I found that reading/learning from a smartphone/laptop is really distracting, because your constantly bombarding with new ads tailored made for you, headlines, video/audio etc. This makes is hard to focus, one just go from this to that, but with a physical newspaper/magazine/book it's not the case.
    • Pick up a hobby. Anything you like.
    Fantasy; worse then Fapping
    Yes, it's worse then fapping. It's your own porn-production house. I have fallen into this really badly. Even after 2 months of NoFap, I was fantasizing like a regular porn watcher though it never took me to PMO, but after 2 months one day it just didn't allow me to sleep, and I ejaculated without touching my penis after hours of fantasying. Next day I posted in NoFap asking people about it, and it was clear that my brain literally made its own version of porn within my head.
    I had to start practicing no-fantasy. Believe me this was like a capstone. This elevated the silent pressure I had to watch every girls out there in the street and try to get erection. It took away the irritated feeling i always used to feel at myself.

    Few advise to new Fapstronauts:
    • Isolation is never an answer rather get engaged to different things.
    • Flatline is a friend
    • Everyone is different.
    • Change your whole life.
    • Don't make expectation, rather go with natural flow.
    Who am I today?
    Today I am just a normal guy who I used to before I get into porn. I have time to do a lot of works, doesn't get weird feeling when I see a random women, normal wet dream circle restored, spontaneous hard erections happens without literally thinking, morning wood every day, can concentrate at my work, feels more calm, building endurance and strength through workout, reading/learning everyday, positive about life.

    In comparison to what others achieved mine may seems really insignificant but I believe that much is what I needed and those were enough. I didn't get to see/feel whether girls are getting interested on me or not, but that even doesn't feel like something I should be thinking now.

    Keep up guys, it pays you on time ;)
  2. Must..Resist..Fappening

    Must..Resist..Fappening Fapstronaut

    Thanks, seems like recurring theme among successful Fapstronauts is the need to engage in more activities that occupy your mind and produce positive feelings. I often have as hard as time with that as I do struggling with PMO. I'm going to try writing a list of things I can do,and schedule time to do them.
  3. Dziki007

    Dziki007 Fapstronaut

    You are right about fantasy. I was always that kid who always was not in the present and all the time in his head dreaming of life. I also could ejaculate fast without touching my dick using my own imagination. Unfornutaltely it creates fake imaginary world where i am king but in reality its totally diffrent and im scared to do something to avhieve what i want. No fapp / no porn no fastansy at all definetly will bring benefits to life and start just living it instead dreaming of it. Good work brother, its time for change, big change.
  4. immanuel.iitd

    immanuel.iitd Fapstronaut

  5. SoulOf1Lion

    SoulOf1Lion Fapstronaut

  6. MarcusA

    MarcusA Fapstronaut

    In the website a fantasy of the kind of weird porn that you used to watch on screen is still reinforcing the neural pathways that shouldn't be reinforced but the difference is that you are not in the habit of clicking and clicking without much thought. That also counts as 'porn' because you get a dopamine spike out of it but it's obviously not nearly as harmful as browsing porn for hours.

    The biggest challenge for me right now is kicking the habit of mindless browsing on youtube, social media etc. It slows down my recovery so my question for you xhridoy is: Did you have the same habit and if you did, how did you deal with it?

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  7. Abdulaziz Yusuf

    Abdulaziz Yusuf Fapstronaut

    Thanks bro, I really needed this post, everything you have said is wright, fantasy is really bad and it slows your rebooting process. And changing the lifestyle is the final kick to the Porn addiction butt, if you don't change your lifestyle you will properly go back to the porn addiction, because this addiction have altered our lifestyle in a way that it helped it self to control us more. again thanks very much, you really helped me:).

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