Is there any methods that can help with abstraining from even thinking sexual. No matter how hard I try, I always end up getting sexual thoughts.. and when I don't masterbait, I have wet dreams/:
Take up a hobby. Start working out. Take a cold shower. Meditate. Do something that will keep your mind engaged and away from sexual thoughts.
Thank you. I think the urge has something to do with boredom. However, what should I do if I find myself thinking sexually anyways? Any tips to get my mind off of it?
Get out of your house and go for a walk. At least turn off your computer or go into another room where there are people, if you live with other people. Remove yourself from temptation.
From my experience sexual thoughts are going to be a natural occurrence when we've PMO'd for so many years. Our brains crave them and we've learned to think sexually every minute of the day. Each time you have a sexual thought you have to consciously say you don't want that, and work hard to think of something else. As you guys have been saying, distracting yourself is very helpful. Once you do this for a long time you will eventually retrain your brain. It's hard though because it takes a long time. Even at 45 days in I'm having to do this every day but I'm determined to keep my thoughts clean and if you can focus on your thoughts it's a lot easier to control your actions.
It is not easy that ingoring the sexual urges but you can fight with it. Dont give up early .Every human has self control and spiritiual power.You can use your synergy during this fighting. As for me , I dont watch TV ( except news,documentary programs) as much as before NOFAP. I dont eat too much sugared eatables. I am doing religious activities on daily.The activities improve my self control and increase my spiritiual power.
Totally agree with you.. One needs to stop fighting with one's own thoughts. You can never win. Because you are fighting with your own self. In the end end you will end up hating and hurting yourself. You should avoid the thought triggering situation. Like don't go to bed till you are sleepy. Or don't take shower for too long. Keep yourself and your mind busy. Just pretending to do something will not work. Indulge yourself into whatever you are doing. Even then if some sexual thoughts arise. Don't try to run away. Also don't give in. But simply think how you got the thought. Know that we are all sexual beings and its only natural to have sexual thoughts. Sometimes its the driving force that pushes us ahead. Take some deep breaths and let the thought go as it came, and you continue doing what you were doing, with full focus. It is just a matter of concentration. If you have good concentrating power, you will be distracted less and will have less sexual thoughts. Doing something to keep yourself busy will only work if you do it with full concentration. One simple exercise to increase concentration is to close your eyes, empty your mind and start counting your breaths. count till 50 or 100. But if you start thinking about anything else, start again. Reach that 50 or 100 mark. It will also relax you and you will feel fresh. Hope that helps..stay strong
