How to live as ugly lonely man

Liminal · Mar 17, 2021

I'm not sure about the loneliness since that's a problem I'm facing too. About the baldness, if it makes you uncomfortable, you can consult your medic, there's medicinal cycles that can definetely help you delay or even prevent baldness, as well as improving your hair condition. There's a youtube channel named MorePlatesMoreDates. Name sounds douchy but it's not about what you're thinking, he's a bodybuilder who often talks about hair loss and treatments and ways to medically prevent it. Also if you do/ever manage to get some money you could get a fue transplant, but they're very expensive so I wouldn't suggest that unless you can easily afford it without getting into any debts. As well as doing one of these treatments you could grow a beard to slightly draw attention away from the top of your head, at least by that point you might have a bit more physical self-esteem.

jax2k19 · Mar 24, 2021

Liminal said: ↑

I'm not sure about the loneliness since that's a problem I'm facing too. About the baldness, if it makes you uncomfortable, you can consult your medic, there's medicinal cycles that can definetely help you delay or even prevent baldness, as well as improving your hair condition. There's a youtube channel named MorePlatesMoreDates. Name sounds douchy but it's not about what you're thinking, he's a bodybuilder who often talks about hair loss and treatments and ways to medically prevent it. Also if you do/ever manage to get some money you could get a fue transplant, but they're very expensive so I wouldn't suggest that unless you can easily afford it without getting into any debts. As well as doing one of these treatments you could grow a beard to slightly draw attention away from the top of your head, at least by that point you might have a bit more physical self-esteem.
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I heard about his guy. The problem is that I have side effects from finasteride. I have my own regimen treatment for hair loss: minoxidil, microneedling and nizoral shampoo. I hope it will slow balding process a little bit.

jax2k19 · Mar 24, 2021

Thank you guys for your support. I really appreciate that. There a lot of wisdom and good advices in your posts. Maybe it depends on day but I feel so much better right now. Wish you all the best in your journeys.

ElSabio · Mar 24, 2021

VincentRParker said: ↑

First, let me say that I care about you. You are my brother and I don't like my brothers to be sad. There are more people that care about you than you will ever know.

But, I'm not going to be nice to you. You didn't come here to have people say poor you. If you did, you don't belong here. This place is for people who are into self improvement and healing. Weak people want pity parties. Weak people feel like victims. Victims never have good lives. They never take responsibility. They never take control. You can't help a victim because they are so dillusional they can't even admit they LIKE being a victim. That means they don't have to try. They don't have to work hard. It's always someone else's fault. It's always because they were born "different." BS!

I'm not sure if you like building crap or if you think you can see the future. Maybe you're just insane. Maybe it's both. Let me explain...

Let's say someone wants to build a boat. What do they do first? They visualize it. They think about what it has to have. What it looks like. Where the seats will go and what kind of engine it will have. They make a plan.

So, reading your post here's your plan: nobody will ever want to have my babies and I'll be sad my whole life and people will make fun of me and I'll just sit at home crying and playing with myself.

I mean, if that's the kind of life you want go for it. More power to you. I want you to have what you want. And if that's what you want keep thinking that way. Be my guest. Have fun.

That's not what you want? Then why are you fantasizing about it? Start fantasizing what you DO want! Imagine yourself with a healthy body. Imagine yourself with money. Imagine yourself with a woman. Imagine yourself smiling. Imagine yourself happy. Feel it! Our imagination is like placing an order with our mind. THIS is what I want. THIS is my boat.

You are insane and crazy because you think you know what's in the future. I'm not being funny. You are insane. You have a problem because you really think you know. But you don't. Someone could shoot you in the head tomorrow. You don't know the future so stop pretending like it. You say what's the point I'll never be happy. I call BS! Stop thinking about a future that will never happen and start thinking about one you want. At least that is a little more enjoyable.

It doesn't end there. Of course not. You can't think about a boat and it just appears. All you're doing is making a plan. I want to look good. Great plan. Now, go for a run. Lift some weights. Jump a rope. Not once, not twice, every freaking day. Never stop. We don't stop when we're tired. We stop when we are done.

As you build a better body you will get more confident. Why? Because you look better? Hell no. You're ugly. You can't change that. You will get more confident because YOU took control. Women love that shit! They don't care how you look. They care if you are a man. Men are strong. Men take control.

Do you think women like men because they have money? They do but NOT for the money. They want a man that can make money. There is a difference. A man with money can become poor. And if you have a woman that will happen real fast. Women are designed to spend resources. But a man that can make money will never run out. He can provide for her. He can strengthen her. A poor man can only weaken her.

See what I'm saying? You live in a fantasy world where you are small and weak and lonely and pathetic. Stop it. I know fat, ugly people who have beautiful wives. I know handsome people who are alone. It's because one has something real to offer, the other does not.

If you feel weak, if you feel ugly, if you fantasize about a bad life you have nothing to offer but a bad life. Nobody wants a bad life. So stop it. Build an amazing life.

Here's one more piece of advice. You need to get to know yourself. Because it sounds to me like you're running away from yourself. You don't like yourself. If you don't like yourself how the hell are you going to convince me to like you?

I bet if you really spent some time with yourself you would like yourself. Pretend like you are two people. Sit down in the quiet and talk to yourself.

Sometimes you might just have to listen to how you feel. Don't run away from it. Accept it. Do you feel lonely. OK, really feel it. Become comfortable with it. Because once you accept it, it no longer has power. Don't fight it. Don't get rid of it. It's part of you! Accept that part of you. Then it won't bother you. It won't have to. The more you try to get rid of it, the more it will hold onto you. It has a voice. It is real. It needs your approval.

Set aside half an hour of you time. Sometimes you will just have to ask yourself questions. Really dig for the answers. Sometimes you will make plans. Sometimes you'll just pretend you are a close friend and just sit together in silence. If you get to love yourself the world will love you too.

To sum it all up: stop thinking you know what the future holds. Only crazy dillusional people think that. Start thinking about the future you want. That's what creators and inventors do.

Next, work on building your future. Make a plan and never stop when you are tired. Stop when it is done.

Finally, learn to love yourself. Nobody will ever love you. Ever. I'm sorry but it's the truth. No woman will ever love you. She only loves what you can give her. If you can't give her anything, she will leave you.

And don't think you will ever love a woman either. You love what she can give you. Sex. Someone to talk to. Someone to help clean the house. That kind of love is an illusion. Companionship is real and good and nice. Love is a lie.

Except love of self. Love yourself (which means truly know yourself) and nothing else will ever really matter again. That is the only real love. Because once you love yourself, you will know true love and can then love the world.

I hope that made sense. Good luck.
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100% Sage advice! You sound like you have read Albert Ellis or a lot of cognitive therapy! The cognitive error of "predicting the future" is all over this board. OP he is right and this is the advice of someone who cares about you. If you would like a couple of extremely helpful books message me. I'm certain you can find at least one of them in your native language.

spidermanfan123 · Mar 25, 2021

VincentRParker said: ↑

First, let me say that I care about you. You are my brother and I don't like my brothers to be sad. There are more people that care about you than you will ever know.

But, I'm not going to be nice to you. You didn't come here to have people say poor you. If you did, you don't belong here. This place is for people who are into self improvement and healing. Weak people want pity parties. Weak people feel like victims. Victims never have good lives. They never take responsibility. They never take control. You can't help a victim because they are so dillusional they can't even admit they LIKE being a victim. That means they don't have to try. They don't have to work hard. It's always someone else's fault. It's always because they were born "different." BS!

I'm not sure if you like building crap or if you think you can see the future. Maybe you're just insane. Maybe it's both. Let me explain...

Let's say someone wants to build a boat. What do they do first? They visualize it. They think about what it has to have. What it looks like. Where the seats will go and what kind of engine it will have. They make a plan.

So, reading your post here's your plan: nobody will ever want to have my babies and I'll be sad my whole life and people will make fun of me and I'll just sit at home crying and playing with myself.

I mean, if that's the kind of life you want go for it. More power to you. I want you to have what you want. And if that's what you want keep thinking that way. Be my guest. Have fun.

That's not what you want? Then why are you fantasizing about it? Start fantasizing what you DO want! Imagine yourself with a healthy body. Imagine yourself with money. Imagine yourself with a woman. Imagine yourself smiling. Imagine yourself happy. Feel it! Our imagination is like placing an order with our mind. THIS is what I want. THIS is my boat.

You are insane and crazy because you think you know what's in the future. I'm not being funny. You are insane. You have a problem because you really think you know. But you don't. Someone could shoot you in the head tomorrow. You don't know the future so stop pretending like it. You say what's the point I'll never be happy. I call BS! Stop thinking about a future that will never happen and start thinking about one you want. At least that is a little more enjoyable.

It doesn't end there. Of course not. You can't think about a boat and it just appears. All you're doing is making a plan. I want to look good. Great plan. Now, go for a run. Lift some weights. Jump a rope. Not once, not twice, every freaking day. Never stop. We don't stop when we're tired. We stop when we are done.

As you build a better body you will get more confident. Why? Because you look better? Hell no. You're ugly. You can't change that. You will get more confident because YOU took control. Women love that shit! They don't care how you look. They care if you are a man. Men are strong. Men take control.

Do you think women like men because they have money? They do but NOT for the money. They want a man that can make money. There is a difference. A man with money can become poor. And if you have a woman that will happen real fast. Women are designed to spend resources. But a man that can make money will never run out. He can provide for her. He can strengthen her. A poor man can only weaken her.

See what I'm saying? You live in a fantasy world where you are small and weak and lonely and pathetic. Stop it. I know fat, ugly people who have beautiful wives. I know handsome people who are alone. It's because one has something real to offer, the other does not.

If you feel weak, if you feel ugly, if you fantasize about a bad life you have nothing to offer but a bad life. Nobody wants a bad life. So stop it. Build an amazing life.

Here's one more piece of advice. You need to get to know yourself. Because it sounds to me like you're running away from yourself. You don't like yourself. If you don't like yourself how the hell are you going to convince me to like you?

I bet if you really spent some time with yourself you would like yourself. Pretend like you are two people. Sit down in the quiet and talk to yourself.

Sometimes you might just have to listen to how you feel. Don't run away from it. Accept it. Do you feel lonely. OK, really feel it. Become comfortable with it. Because once you accept it, it no longer has power. Don't fight it. Don't get rid of it. It's part of you! Accept that part of you. Then it won't bother you. It won't have to. The more you try to get rid of it, the more it will hold onto you. It has a voice. It is real. It needs your approval.

Set aside half an hour of you time. Sometimes you will just have to ask yourself questions. Really dig for the answers. Sometimes you will make plans. Sometimes you'll just pretend you are a close friend and just sit together in silence. If you get to love yourself the world will love you too.

To sum it all up: stop thinking you know what the future holds. Only crazy dillusional people think that. Start thinking about the future you want. That's what creators and inventors do.

Next, work on building your future. Make a plan and never stop when you are tired. Stop when it is done.

Finally, learn to love yourself. Nobody will ever love you. Ever. I'm sorry but it's the truth. No woman will ever love you. She only loves what you can give her. If you can't give her anything, she will leave you.

And don't think you will ever love a woman either. You love what she can give you. Sex. Someone to talk to. Someone to help clean the house. That kind of love is an illusion. Companionship is real and good and nice. Love is a lie.

Except love of self. Love yourself (which means truly know yourself) and nothing else will ever really matter again. That is the only real love. Because once you love yourself, you will know true love and can then love the world.

I hope that made sense. Good luck.
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I think this is my favorite post on this site.

ElSabio said: ↑

You sound like you have read Albert Ellis or a lot of cognitive therapy!
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Seriously. This dude sounds like the Tyler Durden version of Jordan Peterson.

PanteriMauzer · Mar 25, 2021

Ivr had pretty hot girls saying im pretty and some even wanting sex with me, but still nothing happened

It developed and addiction of sexting to me

Personality triumphs over looks, and with personality you can improve alot

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