Because man some people on here don’t understand my problems like my emotional hurt man like I got serious issues
Like my dad left and I’ve tried to win his love him too love me over the years but that hurt is still there and my stepdad left and I was really close to him and I’ve told my family about my problems but they don’t care they not there for me don’t have nothing to do with me and I cry a lot because of my pain sometimes but I feel trapped like it will never get better nobody knows how it feels I just want to escape the pain that’s why I use
I spoke on this on your most recent thread. I said there that you have to learn to no longer care about this, although that's extremely difficult. It's hurting you badly, I can tell, but you have to accept that this is what happened, although it may take a long time. Only by accepting this can your sadness start to go away. I suggest just trying to accept it for a day, and see what happens. Create a plan for your own life, that involves your job and whatever else you want, and work towards those goals.
Yeah man thanks it’s extremely hard for me man the only thing that makes me happy is porn and I know it’s bad and wrong but it’s only how I numb my pain to feel good again
A lot of people are in n the same boat, tbh. Ask around. I saw my "dad" only two times in my life, then he died of a massive heart attack. That was a decade ago. Now some rondom skrub(Moms said that's my real dad, she's just as confused lol?) is claiming to be my dad, and now he wants to see me all of a sudden. He's contacting me through my mom, but I want him to keep the same ass energy that he had for 28 years and stay the hell away from me. Let that hurt go. Ain't no one going to be with you forever but you. Dwelling on it benefits no one. Use the example that they set by not doing what they did. Escape the pain by setting the example that they didn't have the strength to set.
You know you always got a choice. We go deeper and deeper into darkness and see no light for us but there is always Hope. You NEED professional help. You went through too much. But you know what is good. As long as you feel pain. Pain never lies, pain tells you that you got hurt. But the best thing about Pain is ... It tells you that you are not dead yet. In order to change your mental state and life you got to learn more about yourself and others. You got to learn a lot and understand each other. Who you are ans who you aren't. Accepting the past and letting it go. There is Hope... THERE IS ALWAYS HOPE. This "I'm done with NoFap" is a choice because you don't feel ready for any change. But you want to know a secret ? You will never be feel ready for a change. Like my lazy butt will never feel ready to stop procrastinating. I can't wait for the right feeling because it will never come so everyday is a chance. You can change your life. You can still fight. As long your heartbeats and you can stand on your feet, you can fight. Accept yourself and let go of the pain! Back when I got depressed I was waiting for somebody to come into my life and safe me.... but one day I just realised that I was relying with all my life on something impossible. I couldn't wait... there are will be no hero coming to safe me. So I decided to become the Hero I needed most and a person that others can look up to and give them hope! AND I AM HOPE! IF I CAN BECOME A HERO THEN YOU TOO CAN DO THAT. BECOME YOUR OWN HERO!
I get it. Most bad things make people feel good. If they didn't feel good, people wouldn't do them, even if they cause serious harm afterwards, and go against the person's conscience. You have to understand that pornography is harming you as well, and I know that you know that it isn't good, because you're here. You need to find something else that makes you feel good. Reading? Going outside? Some physical activity like biking, boating, or hiking? Try all of them. What's your faith?
I work all the time then when I do get time I go with my friend and we talk about hot women and hot women
Look let me show it to you like this: You need time to understand and learn Porn and other addictions (internet/smartphone) procrastination and escapism are taking hours and days. In order to change your life, on a healthy mind set, you need time. So more porn means less thinking time and less thinking time means more bad feeling time which leads to less energy which leads to worse life and worse feeling which leads to more escape behaviour which leads to more porn and on and on
I work at a water store and we have a lot of really attractive women that come in the store temptation is at my job and it’s in the summer too
Cool. If it's enough for you, then that's cool, but you could also consider advancing within the company, if it's possible. Concerning the women, I say, ask one of them out or stop looking at them completely. Both are viable options.
