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I am soo Angry

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Real Roboin, Jan 24, 2018.

  1. Jan 24, 2018 #1
    Real Roboin

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    Hello,

    My name is Robin and I am married to a porn addict. This last year it has been out of control. The lying to me straight in the face over and over again has ate me up inside. I realize now that he has always had this addiction looking back over our 22 year marriage and having ED while were dating . How much this a has affected him , was like a big aha moment. I hate that our kids know and that last year my daughter found the porn on our computer. I can tell when he tries to quit just by his actions. Then I can tell when he gets a dopamine fix by the way he talks and what he says. I live in a small rural town and there are no therapist for this. I was told by one to get in bed and do my job. Which many ladies know with a PA that doesnt always work and if it does it is horrible sexual experience, leaving us feel starved and unfilled. I am hoping by joining the community I can find some forgiveness and let go of all this anger I carry. Thank you. Ps I accidentally spelled my name for the community wrong.
     
    Real Roboin, Jan 24, 2018
    Real Roboin, Jan 24, 2018
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  2. Jan 24, 2018 #2
    TaiseiReborn

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    First I want to say I am sorry that you are going through this and that he lied to you about it, I know as I was on the other end lying to my spouse about it. The first step was to just come clean and both of us sat down and talked about it for a while. Reasoning for wanting to do it and what exactly went through my mind as I was doing it as well can open quite a few doors for the discussion and finding the meaning behind it. I know it's not easy to break the habit and sex can also lead to him going back to porn if it isn't the right kind of release or rather enough depending on how many times he explores. In the town is there anything else for him to fixate his mind on? I know with small rural towns that sometimes there isn't a whole lot; perhaps bowling alley, family game night just something to get him away from the computer ( and his phone to if it has spread that far )?

    Also you can change your user name once every 90 days it should be under settings I believe. Hopefully some others who have been in this longer can chime in and help you out. I do hope everything will work out fine for you :).
     
    TaiseiReborn, Jan 24, 2018
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  3. Jan 24, 2018 #3
    Real Roboin

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    Thank you both and I will try to get him too. I will see if he is willing to go some things with me. Its all his phone now because of accidentally using my sons school account. through our big computer. I am leaning my around this site and group if I happen to anything wrong. Thank you for replies and ... I did tell him I joined NoFab and I have hired a attorney.
     
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  4. Jan 24, 2018 #4
    TaiseiReborn

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    Oh my I didn't think it went far enough to an attorney; but then again with what information was provided I don't blame you. So after telling him what transpired after? Hopefully something good in which he will try to lessen the amount of time spent watching. Which hopefully will end up with him quitting it.
     
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  5. Jan 25, 2018 #5
    Real Roboin

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    He seen something was wrong, in his head nothing is wrong. In my head i am not living with someone who enjoys something other than me more. Its not what I signed up for or want the rest of my time here to be.
     
    Real Roboin, Jan 25, 2018
    Real Roboin, Jan 25, 2018
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