I feel depressed being in relationship

Ugh yeah I knooow this feeling, it is the worst. Here is the thing with relationships (from my own observations and experiences), they consider often two people and both sides should be on equilibrium for things to go right. If one side gives all the effort, attention and love, it is a no go situation. Cause that side also expects something from that other person in return. It is normal to have expectations and even high standards, so no worries. When the expectations are not met you begin to question the relationship, your partner, what might of happened (possibilities), yourself, situation and more...

Your partner has values and expectations but you sure do too. That means we all own an independent life, it is all special to us. Attaching yourself to a relationship might be easy for you but if all of your day consists only according to your gf, I don't think that's healthy. And one other point, communicating your thoughts and your feelings doesn't count as whining. Communication between couples is the key element for both sides. So she should also feel comfortable telling you about her problems. That would settle both of you on the same trust and comfort levels.

Hopefully that helped, I tried to be as transparent as possible
Have a lovely day!

 

I was in a similar situation where i was get a lot of affection at first but then when i got too attached and was being more loving and a bit needy, she started to pull away. I feel for a relationship to be successful the girl has to be the one who is more attached that way she is happiest when shes with you and you are happy cause you're getting all this love and affection. I would suggest you should pull back and focus on your on goals for a while and be patient when she sees you getting better as a man she will automatically want to be with you more.
Hope this helps.
Good luck

 

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Okay i’ve read some of your posts and it’s quite obvious you are unhappy with this girl, and i think deep down you don’t want truly want to be with her and you could be upset at yourself at wasting your life force for empty pleasure on a girl you don’t truly want to spend the rest of your life with. I say empty bc it is unfulfilling, just making you more paranoid and anxious.

That’s a sign something is wrong if you’re feeling bad after sex or just feeling incompetent with your gf. i inferred and guessed a lot here, but perhaps you can see why God didn’t design sex to be had before marriage. Because you are giving yourself physically to each other but there lacks that emotional attachment as a result.

It’s better to wait till marriage since you build your foundation emotionally first

I can’t explain well why sex outside of marriage doesn’t work as well, but if you look up a guy named tim keller on podcast or youtube, he explains well


Sorry to hear that you’re feeling this way. you must be so confused. I hope whatever happens that you learn from your experiences and come out as a better man but ya she doesn’t seem like the one for you based on what you described