I feel emasculated.

are you gonna go to college?

If so, pick a college degree that will pay a high salary in the future

If no college, then get a good job, possibly a sales job that pays high commissions

Why not just get a long term, steady girlfriend? You don’t have to get married right away, and you don’t have to have sex with multiple girls

Just get one long term girlfriend who you really like

I think you are fine, nothing too worry about. Just pick a direction to go and stick with it

 

You need $$$ to survive. If you want to find a wife and provide for her and start a family, that will require $$$.
See where your interests lie and where this meets a practical way of making a living (ie a job).

Find out what this requires (a diploma? college degree? apprenticeship? university degree? etc)
Take steps to get what is required.

Envision what you'd like your life to look like. Use this as motivation when you feel like all is pointless. Make it as clear as possible (by no means have I got this down. this is hard for me)

When opportunity affords, do good to those around you. Help others. This builds character.
On our death beds, when we are old and frail and have blown all our money, character is all that remains.

Get strong physically. Not only for yourself, but to be able to protect those who need it when a situation arises.
If you want to be a family man in the future, you will have to know how to protect said family from harm.



I 1000% can relate to the sentiment: "There is no struggle." Society has softened us to the point where we yearn for it. This is good. It shows we are still alive. I remember thinking "I want there to be a war. I want to go and struggle for something".
However, now I think it is more accurate to say "There is no struggle I FIND MEANINGFUL ENOUGH TO ME".
There are struggles all around. Which one echoes for you?
So begins the search for that which is worth dying for.
Only you can answer this.

Remember the words of Jordan Peterson:


Godspeed

 

Be patient, because the struggles will inevitably come. And then after some time, you're gonna be wishing you were young and carefree again.

 

I've felt this feeling a lot lately. But I picked an area and have just gone with it.

I think the key is to develop mastery. In my opinion, many people develop a sense of purpose by honing their craft.

I mean don't focus on something like aardvarks, the surfaces of bubbles, or gaming. Pick something you have an interest in and that is applicable to real-life.

And then just roll with it!

 

I've got some more thoughts that I wanted to share on this topic, but I need to get to bed so I'll give this to you to chew on for now:



I know that you want to skip ahead to being "old", but your being young means that you can afford to take a little bit of time and figure out what you want to do with your life before going all-in on it. You're doing a really smart thing by taking a moment and making a plan.

I'll be back.

- Spark Advance

 

If you want to find your purpose, you need to go out into the world and actively seek it and try out new things if life eventually you will find that one thing you are deeply passionate about. Deep down I bet you have things you really enjoy but it’s just up to you to pursue those things and think of ways you can give a service to others in order to help people and to make money from.

 

This is your purpose. When I graduated this is all I did, was hang out with my friends whenever I could grasp it while it was there. Later in life you don't even know if they'll still be there. Most of mine have moved away and are pointless to contact now. This is why I am feeling less engaged in social activates or whatever.

I basically eat, sleep, exert whatever energy I have left to work out and do push ups. Friends right now are my least concern. Loved The Matrix, it's really a documentary as they say.

I'd say try and find your purpose, find hobbies or activities you would like to enjoy.
I found music when I was 16 years old, it's kept me busy and averts my mind from destructive thinking.