I hate Valentine's Day

I'm not a fan of Valentine's Day either. I think social media doesn't help matters, either. I've found that social media pretty much mostly serves to make you compare yourself to others and everyone is always trying to one up each other. I got rid of my Facebook years ago and it has been soooo freeing. And now when my husband does something special for me, I don't feel the need to go brag about it to all my friends.

Without social media, honestly, I almost forgot Valentine's Day even existed. Lol so maybe getting rid of the comparisons would be helpful. I know it has made a huge difference for me.

I'm sorry to hear about your heartbreak. It truly is the toughest thing to get through in life, I believe. I hope time is healing your wounds and that you can find some joy today in knowing that you are loved and supported!

 

I'm certainly not a fan of Valentine's Day, same goes with Steak-and-BJ-day, kiss-your-monkey-day and all the other bullshit days etc.
But for this Valentine, I've had my eyes on a girl, I felt was very special. So I sent her a simple appreciation card with a few words.
I may have used the day as an excuse, but hey, I would feel worse if I didn't.

 

Who the fuck actually cares about valentines day? It's just a day that forces the societal convention to buy shit nobody needs on people. It really shoud be disregarded completely. If you feel sad about what happened, then feel sad for a time but don't let a freaking holiday that doesn't mean shit to you as a person make things worse.

 

Here are my thoughts, for what they may be worth...

I am 53, never married. It took me years to make peace with the fact that my attraction was to males, not females. I really wanted to be married -- i.e., to a woman -- and have children. So, even though my circumstances are different from those of others, I can attest to years of awkward dating, and being alone on those occasions -- like Saint Valentine's Day -- when society "expects" you to be out on a date. So I can understand the sentiment above.

But the truth is, it isn't just St. Valentine's Day. It's Christmas, New Years, high school Homecoming, Prom, lots of college events, and so on and so on. The holiday isn't the problem. The social expectations aren't the problem -- at least, they aren't a problem any of us can do anything about.

Ultimately, it's up to us to make our peace with the world around us. Or else, not -- and then it isn't the world that is unhappy, but us.

I really believe that the solution is not to look harder for love to be given, but to seek to GIVE love.

Romantic love has it's place, but the truly satisfying thing in life is simply to love. If you want love, give love. Go visit people. Go help the needy. Go check on an elderly neighbor. Get involved in life, and make a difference. It's the corollary to the old advice: if you want a friend, be a friend.

Lots of people who are single -- who never marry, and perhaps never experience "romance" -- nevertheless experience great joy. Not from what is given to them, but in what they give to others.

And, besides, remember the "grass is greener" phenomenon. Lots of people who have been given romantic love don't have all the happiness we imagine it will bring us, if we could only have it. Look at all the handsome or pretty people in Hollywood, who have it all -- and they can't keep a relationship.

I truly believe that no matter what our circumstances, we can find both happiness and fulfillment. It may not be what we thought it would be, but it will happen, if we seek to love, and to give.

 

Sorry about your heartbreak brother. Mine was last February as well, isn't that odd???!?! I bet it was something to do with valentines day too. hmm. I didn't even care at all myself about it. For me it is heartbreak day too.

AND LOOK at the irony of it all. EROS was the Greek god of love, who was known as Cupid to the romans; which is where cupids arrow comes from. To me that is what valentines day is. Just getting pierced by cupids arrow.

This holiday is trash. I wish it didn't exist. All pompery and fiction. True love is not this mushy stuff. True love is when she stays with you when its hard. That Eros part is the easy part.

 

I hate valentines day too buddy, but look. Here i am a few days on after still alive, a little sad and remorseful over someone I don't speak to anymore i felt very affectionate to (dare i say loved) but still kicking.

Life goes on, the pain hurts but it's a nice reminder to your heart to keep pumping and go do something else, even if you have a self destructive personality when it comes to partners or a fatal attraction to dangerous (to your emotional being) people.