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I have NO self discipline

Discussion in 'Off-topic Discussion' started by gunlaegun, May 13, 2014.

  1. May 13, 2014 #1
    gunlaegun

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    That makes me really really sad and frustrated !

    Whenever i start to workout, i just abandon 10 minutes later, i just can't keep going when it hurts, when it's hard.
    It's like.. You know, when you're young, you dream about people pursuing you and in the dream you can't run, you feel like you weigh tons, you just keep falling and the people behind are getting at us, and there's nothing you can do about it. Well, it's the same thing that i feel when i try to workout, or when i try to work for college.

    Earlier today i tried to do that : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AEj-2DwYORM
    We're supposed to do it 3 times in a circuit. I just finished it once and i stopped, i didn't feel like i could do it again.. I was just.. Tired and not motivated anymore whatsoever.

    I'd love to have self discipline, but i just don't know how, and i feel like shit when i abandon like this.
     
    gunlaegun, May 13, 2014
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  2. May 13, 2014 #2
    TeaLeaper

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    I know what you mean. I had this too. Try Vipasana meditation, it trains your mind to mindfulness and concentration. Peace and love --
     
    TeaLeaper, May 13, 2014
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  3. May 13, 2014 #3
    Peaceful Warrior

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    Maybe your goals aren't strong enough. Why would you want to do something that you hate and hurts you if you haven't a good enough reason to do it? If your goal is strong enough it might be what you need to push through. The funny thing is, once you do push through the initial crap, it gets really enjoyable
     
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  4. May 13, 2014 #4
    IWantABetterLife22

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    I agree with Peaceful Warrior, having stronger goals will make your self-discipline go up. And going off of that, it might not be a problem of self-discipline but a problem of low motivation. Have you thought about that? Do you think that's true? If it isn't, that's perfectly fine. You know yourself better than I ever will. You need to reexamine why you're doing NoFap, why you're trying to exercise, etc.

    Also, have you tried taking cold showers? In addition to helping keep the "urges" in check they're a test in self-discipline. If you have enough self-discipline to take a cold shower, then you'll have self-discipline to do others you don't want to do. Yes, they suck, but your body gets used to the cold fast and you feel like a boss afterwards. Watch this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VlHZOb5Obbo. If you don't want to take cold showers, then that's fine.

    I know no matter what, if you truly want to do this challenge, then you'll find a way to do it. Stay strong brother!
     
    IWantABetterLife22, May 13, 2014
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  5. May 13, 2014 #5
    gunlaegun

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    Well actually when there's nothing to do to achieve the goal, then i have the self discipline to make it. For example, reaching 90 days of NoFap is something hard, but i think i might be able to do it, because there's nothing to do, you just have not to fap and watch porn. Same thing with the cold shower. I can take cold showers without problems, even if it's hard. Because you just need to stand and the water does it all, there is nothing to do. You just have to stand still, the pain or the cold itself does not stop me.

    But whenever there is harsh physical of mental activity involve, then i feel like i have no slef discipline. For exemple : Working out, or studying for college. You don't need to just bear the difficulty, you have to put activity in it : mental of physical.

    I might check this meditation thing though, it may be interesting.
     
    gunlaegun, May 13, 2014
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  6. May 13, 2014 #6
    gunlaegun

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    I'm not saying the NoFap challenge is easy right, it's definitely hard. I'm just saying i find it easier than working out for example, because it does not requires physical or mental efforts. Working out does requires physical effort, and studying does requires mental effort.
     
    gunlaegun, May 13, 2014
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  7. May 14, 2014 #7
    Breaking Fap

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    I think a good thing to say at this point is:
    Don't head on too may goals at a time. NoFap is a draining challange for itself.
    And it requires both kind of efforts you are just not aware of.


    Breaking Fap
     
    Breaking Fap, May 14, 2014
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  8. May 14, 2014 #8
    gunlaegun

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    I think you're totally right. I was thinking about it all yesterday and i came to the conclusion that i was probably being too hard on myself.
    Whatever, i'm happy i made it to the 6th day in that NoFap challenge already :)
     
    gunlaegun, May 14, 2014
    gunlaegun, May 14, 2014
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