I am 50 years old and been married for 25 years. I saw porn as a teenager but never really struggled with it. I was actually a virgin until my wedding night at age 24. I married someone after only dating 6 months + 6 months of engagement. I also dated in high school for a couple months. Our marriage from the very beginning was very rocky. I began to view and struggle with porn (not excessivley) when it became easily accessbile in the late 90's with the proliferation of the internet. In the last 7-8 years as our relationship got worse I struggled more. In fact, i struggled the most after we got in fights. My wife recently moved out and I know that I need to tame this and not let it control me. I hate the shame of it. I am attending a support group and thought this might also be helpful. Although it is still a struggle I ironically find it less of a struggle than when I was with my wife.
welcome Roger. If you were using porn as a way to cope after getting in a fight with your wife, it got wired into your brain. I think the 90 day No Porn Detox is a good way to rewire your brain. I have been going to Sex Addicts Anonymous, which is a great way to tell my secrets and get them off my chest, so I am not so ashamed, but it depressed me too, so I started seeing a therapist. Good luck! Tim
Welcome Roger, I'm glad you're here. And I'm sorry to hear about what happened with your wife. I hope and pray you will be able to repair things. If I can help, please let me know.
