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Imagining your partner w others as a side effect

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Ky123, May 17, 2018.

  1. May 17, 2018 #1
    Ky123

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    Hey there. I’m new to this site. Has anyone else experienced not being able to orgasm from a regular sexual encounter with their partner unless you imagine your partner having sex with someone else? My girlfriend unfortunately told me about some of her past sexual exploits in detail when we were early in our relationship. I’m pretty visual and this, coupled with my use of porn, lead to an inibility to bond with her sexually because I’d imagine her with other men. Finally, this lead to me having trust issues with her because, though on a rational level I trusted her, having seen her w different men in my head really messed me up. We finally broke up last week because I just couldn’t really trust her. There were other issues obviously but this was a problem. Can anyone relate?
     
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  2. May 18, 2018 #2
    PMO addict

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    Hi Ky123! Welcome to nofap. I think the #1 thing is to stay clean. As in, stop PMO, and stay stopped. Yes, PMO will create this kind of warping. Well, my only GF back in college was with lots of guys before me. I won't name her or identify her in any way on here. But I chose to be with her, even knowing that. I felt very insecure and it ate away at me at times. I didn't know if she would cheat on me. That would hurt me alot. IDK if your GF was going to cheat on you. Maybe she wanted to tell you so that you'd have an honest relationship. I don't know how it came about though.

    Maybe for your mental health, you need to be with someone whos not had many partners. That could just be needed for you to feel safe.

    To me thinking of my GF at the time with other guys made me feel bad.
     
    PMO addict, May 18, 2018
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