Introduction: I want to improve my sex life.

Hey all, I came here by way of the reddit February NoFap Challenge. I'm pasting my response in that thread below, but the basic reason I'm joining this community is because I think through nearly 15+ years of frequent masturbation, I've destroyed my ability to enjoy, effectively perform, and feel comfortable having sex:

I am going to try this, but I'm a bit lost as far as how to proceed. I am a 29 year old, recently married, healthy (or so I thought) guy who has been struggling for years with ED, and most recently with PE. I have no idea if these issues are caused by PIED or my earlier masturbation in life, but the more I read into it the more I think it is all connected to one another. This can't possibly hurt, and can only help, so let's fucking do this!

1. I don't intend to allow myself to view porn or masturbate. I will try to engage in sex with my wife, as I'm not sure if I'll be able to go 90+ days of not being sexually intimate with her. Another wrinkle: we are open-minded and so practice a mongamish marriage, where we permit one another to be safely and sexually intimate with other people. I'm going to read about this some more but if anyone has any guidance or perspective to share on how to go about this based on being married and having another person who could be affected by this, what's the best course of action here.

2. Goal is to be able to not be so caught up in my damn mind. I wan't to have longer and stronger erections. I want to be able to enjoy intimacy and sex with my wife and girlfriends without being paranoid about disappointing them and myself. I want to be a more confident and capable man, who attacks the world and doesn't just let life happen to him.

3. Why am I doing this? Because this problem is destroying my life. This ED and PE problem has come to a head in the past couple of months and I can't stop experiencing performance anxiety and getting trapped in this horrible cycle of negativity and anxiety. It's affecting my mood, and I think it's led to secondary depression and compulsive, OCD behaviors. I wan't to be able to spend more time engaging in some of the activities that I truly love but always seem to come up with excuses to put off or shorten, like reading, learning new languages, and being a better person in general. I hope this will also improve my interpersonal relationships - both with my wife and any future girlfriends, as well as my family and friends.

Here we go.