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Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by 5omedude, Nov 18, 2019.

  1. 5omedude

    5omedude Fapstronaut

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    Hi everyone, I won't say my name because I want to remain anonymous so you can call me 5omedude. I'm a musician. I play piano and started playing some guitar last year but I am not quite good at it, I need more practice though. I like swimming and also sing. I'm 25 years old and I've been MO since I was 14 years old and started watching porn about four years ago. I'm a christian, or at least I try to be one, so I when I was younger I promised myself to never watch porn even though I masturbated. I could make it till I was 19 or 20, that's when I started to feel curious about having sex with a woman and well... worst mistake of my life. I've been struggling with PMO and tried NoFap on 2016 and could make it up to four months. Those were the best four months of my life, I was motivated, more confident and had a different view of life... Since I relapsed I couldn't make it again and this was the worse year for me since I struggled more than ever, specially with porn. I've watched stuff I feel ashamed of and masturbated a lot to the point of feeling really exhausted and guilty. Today it's seven days since the last time I did PMO, even though I edged and saw some pornographic images. I want to do this because I want a change in my life. I want to be a better person. I want to be a better musician. A better son, brother and friend. I want to stop watching woman lustfully and I hope I can know someone to love and who loves me. I also would like to get fitter and eat healthily. This week without PMO was great, I feel more motivated and social. I wanna take this seriously so I decided to sign up and share with this community my story and writte what I feel and can't say because I don't really have someone I really trust to share this.
     
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  2. ZORROW

    ZORROW Fapstronaut

    The 10 stages of rebooting.

    Stage 1
    : This is when we realize that masturbation is affecting our healthy negatively and we have a thought about quitting. However, after reading about the harmlessness theories of masturbation we are not so determined anymore, we think that masturbation in moderation should do us no harm. This is the very initial stage of rebooting which is characterized by ignorance and naivety. The result: failure!

    Stage 2: We gain a small understanding of the harmful effects of masturbation, but not a thorough understanding. The result: failure!



    Stage 3: We begin to study other peoples’ experience of rebooting and we try to break our rebooting record. Although we have managed to set a new record on the number of rebooting days we are still unable to break out of the vicious cycle. The result: failure!


    Stage 4: This is the confusion stage, after numerous failures, we start to doubt ourselves. At this stage, we are not putting in enough of a fight, no fight no victory! The result: failure.


    Stage 5: Our body gives out signals once again and it’s clear that our health has deteriorated. Once again we make up our minds to quit and rely helplessly on the brute force method without learning about the correct methods. The result: failure.


    Stage 6: We begin to see the harmlessness theory for what it is, that it only works to trick the “children”. This is when we experience a breakthrough in our way of thinking but we still fail to understand why we are unable to quit masturbation. The result: failure.


    Stage 7: This is the stage of understanding, gained from reading vast amounts of rebooting articles, we begin to acknowledge spiritual teachings (such as Buddhism) which helps to increase our determination tremendously, we break the 100-day streak. The result: still failure.


    Stage 8: The thorough cleansing stage, we are starting to cleanse ourselves both consciously and unconsciously. Once this idea has entered our subconscious we easily break the 200-day barrier. There may come one day when we are browsing the internet and have our guard down or we have been slack in our rebooting studies, we therefore stumble near the finishing line. The result: still failure.


    Stage 9: We are almost there now and have become even more careful, our understanding takes on another level. We are no longer affected by dirty thoughts, what we see do not enter our intentions, what other people sees and like we react with caution. We are steady in our heart even amidst rough winds of thoughts. We have discarded the habit of masturbation altogether.

    Stage 10: “Nothing to begin with, how can nothing stir the dust”. We have come to the highest stage where all things returns to simplicity, just as the “sweeping monk” from Jin Yong’s martial art novels. Great skill is hidden in plain site, this is only achieved by the Master. Tips: Everyone should be able to find their current stage in rebooting, just like in video games we have our levels, once we have reached that level success will come. If our level of understanding is not there we will have a hard time to quit masturbation, for a master there is no difficulty, while mastery is difficult to achieve for a layman. Hopefully, everyone will continue to study rebooting articles, the day when we find our “aha” moment is the day when we can walk away from masturbation for good. For the few bright people with keen minds, they are able to skip over stages just as a bright student is able to skip grades and the poor student will need to remain in the same grade.
     
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  3. Hello and welcome! :)

    We are glad to have you as a part of our community. Here are some quick links to get you started.

    Getting Started Guide | How to Use the NoFap Forums | Panic Button | Day Counter | Rebooting Resources | Forum Rules | Glossary

    If you wish to keep a journal of your progress you can do so in the appropriate section found here

    You can also take part in one of the many challenges available. It can be a tremendous help. Challenges

    Also, there are groups you can also join if you wish to do so. You can browse through them here. Groups

    There are plenty of wonderful, friendly and knowledgeable people here to help you along on your journey to a life free of PMO. I wish you nothing but the best!
     
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  4. ZORROW

    ZORROW Fapstronaut

    Hey tiger , i have send you something , please check your inbox .
     

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