Is Porn a Gateway to Escorts?

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by Veritech, May 27, 2019.

  1. Veritech

    Veritech Fapstronaut

    To me it is.

    When I watch porn I feel an intense jealousy. Look that guy just got laid. No effort whatsoever. Here I am masturbating and missing out on a real woman. I want to be like that guy.

    I call the escort agency. After leaving an envelope full of money, I am that guy. No effort. Sex with a woman, just like the dude on the porn flick.

    But this turns out to be just glorified masturbating into somebody's body. At least the porn was free. The escort sent me back a few hundred each time.

    Women are real people. They have thoughts, beliefs, wisdom, humor - aka a soul. My goal is to have a real connection and sex is only a part of that connection.

    Porn and escorts will no longer be a part of my life.
     
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  2. James02

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    In my humble opinion, porn is a gateway to other sexual misbehaviors. It can go in a variety of directions, not necessarily towards escorts. Porn hijacks the brain which causes the individual to start to lose control over sexual impulses. As a result, you may find yourself engaging in other risky behaviors, even if it's not directly escorts.
     
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  3. Rolo75

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    Hello Fam,

    Yes for me Porn was definitely a Gateway into Escorts. Nothing good came out of it. I have always struggled with women my whole life. It all started in my teen years. The more i saw my friends getting laid and having relationships, the more i watched porn. Until the moment i couldn't take it anymore. At the age of 19, i lost my virginity to a sex worker. I wish everyday i didn't make this mistake.
    Unfortunately because of my low self esteem/confidence etc.. i was unable to form a relationship or get laid even after losing my virginity. This is where my life went downhill into HELL. I was seeing sex workers every week. I couldn't stop myself. I lost thousands of euros in the process. Thinking about it, i believe i was seeing SW because that was the only bond i could form with a woman.....
    It's been 5 months since i've seen a SW. The temptation is hard but i'm hanging on. I wish i never saw a SW and remained virgin until now. I agree with you, i want to form a real bond and relationship with a girl. Not a transactional exchange (Money for sex). It's not the life that i wanted but here i am. Hopefully all this will stop.
     
  4. James02

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    @Rolo75 Thanks for sharing, sounds like you are improving & that's great news/progress.
     
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  5. Veritech

    Veritech Fapstronaut

    Totally agree.

    With a viewpoint that a woman is nothing more than her genitals; this is a gateway to unlimited sexual misbehaviours.
     
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  6. Veritech

    Veritech Fapstronaut

    This notion that to be a man we cannot be virgins and have to have sex often is self-destructive and will ultimately destroy our egos.

    It may take some time and effort, but that real connection is out there and attainable.

    If we keep viewing women as a means to get our rocks off and masturbate to; that real connection will always remain elusive.
     
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  7. ultrafabber

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    Very similar to my story, i was 20 yo when i did it and had the same motivation. In my mind, i would become a man by seeing an escort because i "had sex with a woman". I visited plenty more over a period of 5 years. I wasn't going to get pleasure but rather to carve my own image of being a man.

    I had this need to be a "virile man" and even after breaking up with my ex i would spend hours to hit on women online, on various swinging and dating sites. It appeared that my identity as a man depended on how many women i'd get interested in me.

    Now that i stopped masturbating and porn forever, that infantile and retarded machismo seems to be gone.

    Porn is definitely a gateway to escorts and/or cheating.
     
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  8. Veritech

    Veritech Fapstronaut

    You could never be a "virile man" or "machismo". These escorts were never interested in you. They were only interested in your money.

    Awesome!!!
     
  9. B1257

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    hundred percent agree its a gateway. I used to tell myself it was a way to not see escorts and go to massage parlours. If I masturbated then the desire to act out would go away but instead its the opposite. youre simply feeding the fire
     
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  10. Sysyphus

    Sysyphus Fapstronaut

    Over the last year I have become very reliant on escorts and I'm convinced that porn has played a major role in that. What I have found more gratifying about escorts is that they never say no, it's just a matter of paying enough. I have wasted thousands in this addiction and that is what finally got me here. I have also tried to use masturbation as some sort of deterrent to prevent me from calling escorts, but I think we all know this is just a vicious cycle. I just called a girl last friday, and was very tempted to call another one today so I PMO... te urge to call has not gone.
     
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