Is this how men supposed to live?

I can totally relate. Hell a girl may just look at me for 2 seconds and i am already going to Lala land, fantasising about them to an extent where i am even thinking about them whilst sleeping. Every girl i would see, i would desire validation from. Thing is i am shy and have never had the courage to talk to a girl. My interactions with girls has been very limited and so i resort to fantasies.

We experience this because of Porn. Porn makes women appear as 'objects' to us. It prevents us from appreciating women for who they are: Pure beauty (not the beauty that is tainted by porn and social media), modesty, humility, sweetness, supportiveness, empathy, devotion etc. Porn has ruined our lives into accepting this stigma as a norm. Trust me bro, read the threads on this forum and u will find how porn has even went on to affect married couples. No one is safe from this. If u were to have the most attractive woman in the world, u would still not be content. Why? Because of Porn. It will make u desire more and more women.

The only way to break free from this cycle of objectifying women is by putting a halt on Porn. Stop it. Don't watch it, nor fantasise about it. Hopefully if you are committed, in 3 months time you will truly be able to appreciate and recognise women in the way they are meant to be known

 

Answer: No they are not. And they know that you think like this, since they get this response ALL THE TIME (you are literally worthless to them because of everyone is the same this way these days) . If you seem like another guy with horniness problems they will threat you like trash.

Actually you are partly right. Most woman don't want to search for male friends. They get a bunch of friendzoned people who tried to be their lover. They usually leave them behind of course after they find a healthy relationship. If you accept a suggestion, threat woman like you threat other guys. That way you don't end up as a creep. And you don't devalue yourself to others.

 

And yeah, if you want to live a happy life, you should improve yourself first. Interesting and self confident people attract others. Also be more self centered. You don't want to place woman in the center of your life.

 

Sounds like you objectify women. I would work on trying to fix this with abstinence. I tend to objectify women when I'm not in a reboot. After a while though I start seeing people as people. I hope you can achieve this as well.