It’s time to stop

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Lehigh, Jun 22, 2018.

  1. Lehigh

    Lehigh New Fapstronaut

    I’m not much of a writer and I don’t know why but I decided today would be the day I try to live a little more healthy. I just want to slowly cut back on how much porn I view and/or masturbate to. Help would be appreciated. Thanks
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  2. Nadamotain

    Nadamotain Fapstronaut

    Don't be confused by the porn monkey. There is only one kind of porn. The kind that makes you guilty and ashamed. It all leads down the same drainpipe.
  3. Even though its rough to drop the porn / masturbation due it NOW going cold is difficult but the benefits are worth the struggle the first couple of days is tough but even if you slip up get right back to it . Write down how porn/masturbation is effecting you emotionaly and physicly so you can look at it and not act out when urges come and they do even nearly year of doing this now I can tell you they still come but I am a different person now then when I started I know how I will feel after I jerk off to porn so I don't do it I look at what I wrote down and say no thanks to those urges its worth it the self esteem I have now is best gift I could give myself
  4. Hi. Welcome to forum!

    Make sure you create a personal journal thread in Reboot Logs section and blog there on a regular basis. As well as just generally be active participant in various forum discussions. I recommend this to everybody new here because it's the major thing that helped me when I was first starting. Just lurking on forums, reading and learning is great. But it usually is so much more powerful to engage. It helps to keep us motivated and accountable when we are active part of community. And keeps this in front of our minds so we don't forget about importance of it and slip away in our old habits. Sharing is also therapeutic. This is a major reason why AA meetings work so good. But that was developed before internet era. These days we can get most of the same benefits online through communities like this. So don't underestimate the power of active participation.

    I would also like to suggest you to look into mindfulness meditation. It has helped me personally tremendously to learn how to deal with urges and triggers. It takes a while to get good at it and notice results, so you need to be consistent with it, but once you do it's very powerful. It has been used by sages for thousands of years to deal with various issues of the mind. And in recent decades the science is also catching up to what ancient sages have know for centuries. Meditation these days are widely used as very effective tool by psychologists for treating addiction and by neurologists for supporting recovery of the brain after physical injury. Plus it is generally a great exercise for the brain the same way as jogging is great exercise for the body.

    You gotta make sure it is proper mindfulness meditation though. "Mindfulness" meditation where we just focus on breath is more like a concentration meditation instead. It works too but differently and not as powerfully in my experience. Real mindfulness meditation however trains you to accept your urges by understanding the nature of them by observing them, not just suppress them by concentrating on something else instead. It makes you comfortable with them. And once you accept and become comfortable with them there is no need to get rid of them, so there is no need to PMO. Only reason why we PMO is because that urge, that itch in our crotch is uncomfortable, we wanna get rid of it. And then after PMO we have our release. Or we simply want pleasure. And inability to have that pleasure makes us uncomfortable. But if we accept that we can not have pleasure then resistance is gone and there is no reason to PMO.

    Acceptance and mindfulness is the key. Check out this Ted talk on acceptance and mindfulness practice, it gives a good idea of what's it's about when it comes to philosophy. The mindfulness practice as described by psychologist in a the video can be used by itself but ideally should be used as supplementation to your daily sitting meditation. Sitting meditation I personally practice and recommend to people is as explained by meditation expert in this YouTube playlist. If you don't like the monk or want other method there is this awesome smartphone app called Headspace for guided meditations.

    Wish you lot's of strength and success in your reboot journey!

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