Just Decided to Change my life

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Manjunath Reddy BV, Jan 13, 2018.

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    Manjunath Reddy BV New Fapstronaut

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    Hello everyone myself Manjunath I work as a Uber food delivery boy , I am addicted to watching porn and excessive masturbation ,I have decided to come out of it need all your help for getting out of this bad practice.
     
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  2. Welcome. I'd like to ask you, can you stop your urges to watch porn and / or masturbate while they are still thoughts in your head? Think about that. It's okay to have an urge, but don't entertain it. Stop the thoughts, think about something else, think about nothing, leave the room, leave the house, whatever it takes, just don't take it any further!

    Here's a post I made recently:

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    I've been on NoFap for over two years. I was never into "edging", or at least edging without eventually orgasming. When people mentioned edging as if it wasn't that bad and wasn't a relapse, I thought they were nuts.

    However.. I did sometimes do what I now call "mental" edging. I would look at P-subs (which would often lead to P), chat rooms and other bad stuff. I wouldn't M, but I was still getting a dopamine fix and basically what I was doing wasn't much better than "proper" edging. And of course, this would often lead to a typical PMO relapse, or very occasionally an O without any M.

    Long story short, learn from my mistakes and save yourself a lot of time. Cut out all P-subs, P, chat rooms, personal ads, even dating sites if they're a problem for you (they are for me). Or anything else that is a problem for you for that matter. Don't edge and don't mental edge. And if you find yourself fantasising, stop immediately.

    If you do this you're probably going to have to find better ways to manage difficult emotions, feelings, thoughts and so on. So find some ways! Different things will suit different people.

    If you do relapse try not to think of it as a failure. Let's say your five-day streak ended. Well, at least you succeeded for five days! Five steps forward, one step back. But obviously don't make excuses to relapse."
     
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  3. Hey @Manjunath Reddy BV ,

    There is so much support on this forum, the profiles and the various groups. It works if you work it. I don't offer advise. I offer only my ESH (experience, strength and hope).

    Work it? Oh yeah. There's work to be done, that's what's worked for me. Two things I've found necessary.

    1. I had to Learn the NoFap Program.

    2. Getting involved with the community on here was vital to help my recovery.

    Learn the NoFap Program
    The resources listed on the "New Users: List of Rebooting Resources" helped me find my way around the reasons behind the program and the terms used.

    They are:

    You can find this same list on the top of the forum you posted this message on at - the "New to NoFap" forum.

    Get Involved with the Community
    The community has been my lifeline. I've found journals I love, people who are very supportive and a place where I could get to work helping in a small way others.

    I'm nobody important around here. Just a normal user with no magic powers.

    But, I can:

    • Read Journals, and comment when I have ESH
    • Find people I admire and stay in touch via their profiles
    • Pick a forum and make sure evvery post gets and answer. I can't answer them all, but that's good - different opinions make for a better group.
    • Post in my journal (I could be better at it - but I do milestone posts at least) To make a journal go to the section listed by age and start one. Keep all your journal posts in one thread. But, for random thoughts, you can create a new thread.
    Looking forward to seeing you around on the forums,

    - L

    PS - Think of pmo like a wolf. Stay near the center of the group with the winners and the wolf has a more difficult time finding you. But, stray near the edges of the community and the wolf can pick you off.
     
  4. One of the ways I got involved with the fellowship was by reading some really great journals.

    I've included journals from all age groups, spiritual members, religious members, secular members, male and female. You should find journals that help. If not, look around, there are hundreds of others from which to choose. When I say "it works if you work it", reading journals is part of that work.

    Once you open a journal, click "Watch Thread" in the upper right of the page to get alerts when new posts are made. Here are just a few:

    @2525 Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/150280/
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    @Visor Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/144228/
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    @Dragonnlife Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/136148
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    @weddingnails Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/143418/
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    @Struggle Bug Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/141911/
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    @BigDawg913 Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/145872/
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    @Sunshadow Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/75108/
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    @kropo82 Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/78164/
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    @tet2vd Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/144513
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    @Protagoras Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/109842/
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    @Tomoya Okazaki Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/143534/
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    There are many more, and you can discover them on your own. But, these are great places to start.

    This is a work in progress. So, if a journal has changed or is no longer active, look around there are some amazing journals on here.

    - L
     
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