Just had sex

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by ominous1, Jul 14, 2017.

  1. ominous1

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    My fiancée has needs. I did have great sex tonight, although short lived. I can't help but feel somewhat set back. I know I did things the right way so it's not a total wash but was on a good hardmode streak. The important thing is to remain free of PM and limit sex to as often as my fiancée requires, which might be once or twice a month.
     
  2. Runtilmylegsdropoff

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    Nice to get into the starting lineup every now and then.
     
  3. HeartSoulLifePassion

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    And it felt sooooo good, doesn't matter had sex!
     
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  4. GG2002

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    I think having sex with your fiancé is great, not a set back. The goal of NoFap is to have great sex!
     
  5. ominous1

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    My own personal goal for nofap is to cure my social anxiety, and I'm worried the O will set me back. I don't have the regret and shit feeling I get with PMO but can I still heal doing it this way?
     
  6. InfinitePossibilities

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    Having sex is the best way to feel great. No matter what issue, having sex with a girl you like will make things better.

    I was on 60 day hardmode streak, then orgasmed by hj from my SO. I quit hardmode. To say i did xx days hardmode are just words. But having orgasms with my SO (which i did not have for about 6 years) is true recovery.
     
  7. Commited2Health

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    Careful what your brain hears you say. You satisfied your fiance's needs and at the same time your own. You are going to marry her. Give her your affection ten-fold during the reboot process and beyond. Think of her needs and you will feel less anxiety. I am moving in with my fiance at the end of the month. I can not wait. We are also best friends so we tell each other everything and she is very supportive of what I am doing. After 60 plus days of NoFap, four days ago I had what I consider a relapse with P-subs when I was alone, but I don't feel any setback except that which I invent and tell myself. So, NO SETBACKS! We had sex this week and I was able to get an erection without P, with just looking at her beautiful body. No blue pills. Not strong enough for actual intercourse yet. But a HUGE step in the right direction.

    Keep up the great work. Love your fiance unconditionally. Treat her to some Tantra, if you like. (We love our Tantra book). Stay away from any P sub that is not your fiance and you'll be great.

    Continued Happiness!
     
  8. ominous1

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    Possible trigger warning!
    I won't get too explicit.
    Made love 3x yesterday.
    1st time: failed miserably, I wasn't expecting it, she got a little too excited and I went flat. She was incredibly disappointed. Left the room feeling like shit, pathetic, and weak.
    2nd time: failing again, I can sense her disappointment coming, so I go down and so does she and we both end up with O from oral.
    3rd time: success, she is satisfied and talking about going again tomorrow.
    After the whole thing I kind of just feel sick and weak in the knees.
    I sat in front of the box fan for 30 minutes feeling like I was going to throw up.
    It's ok cause we are having sex and connecting on one hand.
    On the other all these O's can't be great for somebody trying to reboot to get rid of anxiety.
    I would almost call it a binge. Only 2 O's but it felt like an all day thing.
     
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  9. Cafax Xafac

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    How old are you boi?
     
  10. The Wrestler

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    Dude - if working on social anxiety is your goal, NoFap should be but one of many tools in your belt! What other options or approaches can you try to help deal with it?
     
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  11. ominous1

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    I don't really know. I'm having a hard enough time with nofap on its own but I would like to quit smoking weed because I know this contributes. I just have to start somewhere.
     
  12. ominous1

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    I guess I just figured porn and mo was the cause of it because I started focusing more on PMO in 2012 which coincided with the beginning of my eye contact issues. I was actively social before this
     
  13. The Wrestler

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    What would you say to counselling? Or a support group like NA, if you're trying to give up weed?
    What about doctors, nurses, and other healthcare practitioners? What do you think of meditation, or church? Or calling a friend to talk about whatever, or simply putting on pants and going outside for a ten-minute walk?
     
  14. ominous1

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    Well, I've been to a psychiatrist and been on medications that got me nowhere. Not to mention the awful side effects of the medicine, I no longer seek psychiatrists, but CBT might help.
    I don't meditate, but I do deep breathing exercises, my sister is into meditation and goes to classes, I could ask her.
    I walk my dog to the park daily, sometimes twice a day.
    I'm making some good steps in the right direction but unfortunately both PMO and weed are deeply rooted from my early teens and I'm almost 32, currently only relapsing occasionally for PMO but still smoke weed everyday
     

  15. I soooooooo feel you man. When I started dating my current gf (February 2017) we would bang 5-6 times per weekend. All my anxiety/OCD would come back after every weekend, so I talked to her and I told her that I feel very weak after coming. She was a bit dissapointed at the beginning when I started holding my semen in and not finish, but with time she got used to it. Plus I hump her way more often and I am more affectionate with her than before.
     
  16. brett alphonso

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    What is S.O?
     
  17. ominous1

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    Significant Other
     
  18. aingdk11

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    Congrats bro my adviced is you must open to ur fiance that you in nofap progress from my experience its take more than a month to heal our body and organs to repair after been damaged by pmo i feel the benefit after 3month had sex with tinder girls and can maintaice full erection more than 15minute and control my ejaculation now im in 8month clean from pmo everythings it take time.goodlcuk
     
  19. brett alphonso

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    Ohhh damn i need to learn alot of short forms along with quitting my PMO too... thanks man... and you having sex with your fiance is far better than PMOs.. you give your love to that one beautiful woman you're engaged to. Good luck my friend. I have a girlfriend too.. im pretty serious with her and want to get engaged to her sometime in the near future too. ☺ cheers
     

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