If you have seen my latest post in this forum, I talk about a girl I am seeing atm and I'm hoping things work out,I'm going out with her next Friday so fingers crossed. I am quite embarrassed/ nervous about something though... I am still a virign ( I'm 18) not embrassed about this.. However, should a miracle happen and I get in a position with girl where things progress.. I literally would not know what to do at all! The furtherest I have managed with a girl is like 2nd base- if that is what kissing applies as. I have not had sex/ oral sex/ fingered. I was thinking about this recently, I literally wouldn't know what I am doing... And when the time comes I am going to look so stupid. Is this common at my age? How do so many people go in first time and know what to do. I was thinking Of watching porn but this isn't how things are done in real life situations , so how do you ever learn ? I mean I guess intercourse is fairly self explanatory, but oral sex and fingering , this has to be done in a particular way ... I know some people will think I sound like an idiot right now but I'm being genuine
Just try and relax. Be yourself with this girl. Do not over think techniques, bases, and what exactly to do next. Be gentle and a gentleman and I promise she will respond and work at your place.
You're just nervous and that is completely understandable I get nervous almost everytime I hookup with a new girl (which is not that often) just try and stay relaxed and go slow if she's done it before she will help you along the way and that's nothing to be embarrassed about. Just a tip for oral be very soft and go with how she reacts to what you are doing don't be stubborn about doing your way only just listen and learn and most importantly enjoy yourself best of luck dude!
I would just be you. Millions upon millions of people our age (I'm 18 and a virgin too) are in this same position or have been in this same position. I think she'll be completely fine if you have no idea what to do if there is a point where things get sexual. Try to relax and see where things ago. Experiment. Make sure both of you are ready before you proceed. The best advice I could give tbh.
I cannot advise you on your main question(s), but the advice already given sounds pretty good. The one thing I can say with confidence is that watching porn will not educate you about what to do if your time with this girl gets intimate at some stage. As you said, porn "isn't how things are done in real life situations". I am sure you'll be fine Mark, don't worry buddy.
I was thinking the same way when I was 18 as well. The average age of sexual debut in most countries is about 18. That means that you are well within the normal range. I was a virgin until 23. I do still have very limited sexual experience. Do not stress it. It isn't worth it to loose it at a one night stand to a person you barely know. Do it with someone you trust. The best tips I can give you to avoid staying a virgin into your 20s is to do a proper reboot. Everything will eventually start to flow naturally.
Remember that there is no single 'right way'. So, don't over think it, or try to do something you don't want to or be someone you're not. The first time I tried, I lost my erection and it was all over quickly. A couple of weeks later we tried again and it was great. What I'm trying to say is, don't be afraid to fail. Let her show you the way. I used to think that
