Loneliness Leading to Relapse

Focus on yourself, hit the gym, learn a new skill, get a better job, i found these very helpful.

 

Here's the thing bro, the person you replied to may have been busy so he/she wasn't able to reply, you shouldn't let something like that make you relapse. If you do have the urges, do something else, I personally made a list of things I want to do everyday so I can stay productive and keep my mind away unnecessary things. For example, I read a book/article everyday, I learn about history, my handwriting is ugly as fuck so I'm trying to improve on that, I listen to podcasts etc, these are some of the things I do everyday and it helps. Of course I relapsed a lot of times but I don't let it affect me, you shouldn't feel bad if you relapse, just take a deep breath and carry on with your day. If you think negatively after a relapse, it will mess with your brain

Sorry for my bad English

 

This happens to me too. I was trying to avoid porn and after a while, I realized that the root reason of what is causing me to turn to watch porn is not sexual gratification, but loneliness. When I was younger, I have more social connections and I spent the majority of my time talking to people, and by the end of the day I have little time for PMO. It is a different story now. particularly so with the global pandemic.

I have tried to pick up new hobbies, including baking, writing, hiking. However, picking up new hobbies alone is not sufficient, because I am still doing these activities alone. It does not make me less lonely, which is the root of my problem.

I am going to leech on this thread and lobby here to look out for what others would advise. I really want to change, and I thank everyone who contributed to this discussion!

 

Once you have create the mindset of not fapping, it will help. Better to take cold shower and avoid arousing pictures. If heavy urges striking then workout.