Lonely and confused

Musicman82 · Feb 17, 2020

Hi all, I’ve joined this site today in the hope of some support and sharing experiences. I am 37, sexual orientation I would say is gay as people relate to it more but I would deep down say Pansexual which is I could fall in love with someone regardless of what body parts they have.
I live alone, longest relationship was around 4.5 years but was with a very jealous, controlling guy who I guess I never deeply loved. He has kind of scarred me with a lot of things, and made me weary about anyone else I meet new if they drink (as he was sometimes violent) amongst other traits that he had. I’ve been single for 5-6 years now with brief romances that don’t last longer than 2 months.
I work full time but inbetween work, I don’t have many friends at all, small family now my grandparents have all passed and I have very little motivation to get up as literally there is nothing to do. This means wanking a lot and some days can be 4-6 times due to boredom or flicking through porn sites, one in particular is chaturbate and I’ve stupidly started buying tokens too for the various people on webcams.
I just don’t want it to continue as looking at my iphone screen time it’s shocking how many hours you spend on various social media apps and porn.
Is anyone else in this kind of situation that’s overcome this and their confidence? I’m a pretty quiet shy guy so do like my own company and can suffer from social anxiety in big groups.
Thanks for reading guys
C

Coco99 · Feb 17, 2020

Musicman82 said: ↑

Hi all, I’ve joined this site today in the hope of some support and sharing experiences. I am 37, sexual orientation I would say is gay as people relate to it more but I would deep down say Pansexual which is I could fall in love with someone regardless of what body parts they have.
I live alone, longest relationship was around 4.5 years but was with a very jealous, controlling guy who I guess I never deeply loved. He has kind of scarred me with a lot of things, and made me weary about anyone else I meet new if they drink (as he was sometimes violent) amongst other traits that he had. I’ve been single for 5-6 years now with brief romances that don’t last longer than 2 months.
I work full time but inbetween work, I don’t have many friends at all, small family now my grandparents have all passed and I have very little motivation to get up as literally there is nothing to do. This means wanking a lot and some days can be 4-6 times due to boredom or flicking through porn sites, one in particular is chaturbate and I’ve stupidly started buying tokens too for the various people on webcams.
I just don’t want it to continue as looking at my iphone screen time it’s shocking how many hours you spend on various social media apps and porn.
Is anyone else in this kind of situation that’s overcome this and their confidence? I’m a pretty quiet shy guy so do like my own company and can suffer from social anxiety in big groups.
Thanks for reading guys
C
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I would first eliminate all social media apps at least for 1 to 2 months until you can regain control of your life. I like yourself would consider myself a shy guy with social anxiety. I know that PMOing amplifies social anxiety to a higher degree so cutting out porn is a must. You have to find a way to enjoy the small things life. Gym is a good place to start, feeling good about your self physically will help with mental clarity. Take up new hobbies( I know this can be hard if you are an introvert but you will just have to get used to being comfortable in uncomfortable situations). Since you are living alone, you just have to try as much as possible to get out of the house and try to be in a social environment. You can use sites like Meetups to do mutual hobbies with some people.If you are in a bad place the only way out of it is making small changes in your life.

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